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writes:me and my boyfriend broke up , now he wants to be friends with benifits ,, we broke up because i'm not ok with him talkin to a certain girl ,whom we once broke up because of her , it's not that i'm jealouse but we have sex and in the middle of it she keeps calling , she doesn't stop, and it annoys me , i'd try to reach him ,tell him something and everytime i call him for somereason they're talking , she treats me badly , talks bad behind my back . my ex doesn't think that i have the right to ask him to stop talking to her , so we broke up , but i'm deeply in love with him and every time i'm with him , we end up touching each other or making out , and i go home depressed because i don't like where i'm standing , help ...
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (26 July 2009):
 Sweetheart don't be a doormat for any guy.
Respect yourself much more than your ex does. He is getting his cake and eating it.
He could be sleeping with her as well right now and by keeping you both on a piece of string it is wrong.
He is the one in the wrong here and whilst you continue to play along you are condoning his actions.
Personally I would contact this girl and say does he sleep with you and find out from the horses mouth, if she says yes then tell her how you are both being played for fools.
There is a guy out there who would treat you with respect, he likes the fact that by having this other girl contacting him when you are around it means that your jealousy of her is making you continue to go back to him, you are trying to keep your place in his life. He knows that she pushes all your buttons (so to speak), he wants your jealousy to fuel your passion for him. He knows you love him SO much but he does not feel the same way otherwise he would be with one girl and not playing two of you off against one another.
He probably tells this other girl that you are the one bothering him and not the other way around, by doing this he strings both of you along but he gets sex as and when he wants it.
I wouldn't trust him no further than I could throw him. If he is sleeping around as well he could be carrying a few nice germs with him as well. He is a sleeze and you deserve so much better than him.
I know love can be blind but you need to take the blinkers off now and kick him to the kerb sweetheart. Value yourself much more than you do right now. The reason you cry is the fact that you know deep down that he is just using you and that is why this emotion comes out when you are away from him. Now is the time to get the little fire in your belly going and get a little angry as this will mean you decide your own future and move on from a waster like him.
Good luck and keep us posted eh!
BFN
Country Woman
P.S. You don't need him, it would be good if he loses both of you because of his greed to have you both, just a thought.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (26 July 2009):
 Don't go there...F*ck buddies are never a good idea, someone always gets hurt xx
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reader, Starlights +, writes (26 July 2009):
 because you are so in love with your ex bf you cannot see the fact that he's very disrespectful.
if a guy loves a girl he'd do anything to make sure she is happy. this ex bf of yours isnt doing that.
during sex, his fone should be on silent and he shouldnt be running to his ex when he has you.
i know its hard but in the long run its better for you if you let him go.
it is depressing but ask yourself this, would you rather be with a guy who wont change & always keeps you crying,
or on your own following your own life without the hassle?
good luck
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