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writes:im so confused my girlfriend and i broke up 3 months ago then she just wanted to be friends i found this hard still love her she now wants to have sex with me but with no strings she said she still has feelings for me but doesnt want to get back together i done it once and feel really confused so any advice would be great as this is getting me really i dont want to lose her and keep hoping if i do this then she will come back
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reader, becca78 +, writes (16 December 2008):
Don't say you'll never get close again! When you've had a chance to get over it (will take time) there will be someone else. And she will be worth it. Relationships are never easy and just because you've been hurt this time doesn't mean you will be next. I've known loads of blokes who don't want to get close because an ex has screwed them up, I've lost out and they've lost out, don't become on of those guys!
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reader, alien +, writes (15 December 2008):
alien is verified as being by the original poster of the question i took all the advice i got and told her i couldnt do it im in so much heartbrek just now want it to stop finding it hard to sleep like a whirlwind in my head when i close my eyes wish it would stop never felt like this before wont let anyone else that close again i dont think not worth it thanks girls x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): my ex boyfriend wanted us to have sex without commitment,but as much as wanted to have sex i had the courage to say no,as i knew it would be false hope of us being a couple and i would end up being hurt yet again,dont do it
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): Don't do it. Unless she comes back 100% and wants to be with you and only you, you're setting yourself up for more pain and confusion. She probably hasn't met anyone else yet and is just lonely, so her way of keeping you on the hook is to have no-strings sex. When someone else comes along that she can get emotionally involved with she will disappear from your life altogether, leaving you out in the cold and broken-hearted.
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reader, alien +, writes (14 December 2008):
alien is verified as being by the original poster of the questionid like to thank everyone who answered aaaagggghhhh this is killing me how can people do that i dont understand i wonder if they know how there hurting someone or even care for that matter anyway thank you very much i will let you all know how it goes
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reader, becca78 +, writes (14 December 2008):
Same thing happened to me a few years ago. We broke up (he liked someone else but didn't happen) then we started by hugging, then kissing, then sex. We did get back together but ended up breaking up again 6 months later. Coming out of a relationship you always miss the intimacy and having someone to hold, but the reasons why you broke up in the first place will still be there so even if you did get back together it probably wouldn't last and you'd have to go through it all again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): sex with an ex ...... more pain and definately no gain.
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reader, SoftlyCaress  +, writes (14 December 2008):
 My husband of 26 yrs told me he wanted a divorce so he moved out then he later wanted to have sex but didnt want to be together pretty much like your g/f you cant do it you will end up confused and hurt and it will break you I know Im still trying to get over it hurts like hell........
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): Hi im in the same shoes as u at the mo, my ex dumped me for someone else, that didnt work out to his plan and we are now having sex twice a week, he still has feelings for me but not as strong as they were, anyway hes now found someone else and im now on my own, and feel really confused like u,
All i can say is dont do it your just end up getting more hurt
I think i did it for hope that we would get bk toghether
Hope this helps
good luck xxxxxxxxx
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