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writes:My life is just a huge complication. I've liked the same girl for at least 4 years now, and I've recently talked to her about everything again, how i feel, how much i like her. But she says she doesn't like me like that. I've told her before a couple of years ago and it was the same answer. But i keep asking what i can to do to make this work, and her answer is always "nothing".I don't know what to do, i understand she doesn't like me in that way and may never. But i don't know what to do with my life, it doesn't take two years to get over someone! i think about her pretty much ever night and get upset. There has got to be some other answer, I can't get over her and she doesn't want me.???????????:'( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): i know its easier to say and convince yourself that you dont want to be with someone rather than live in hope of them wanting you,helps you to move on
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reader, Anonny +, writes (14 December 2008):
Unrequited love is a painful and sad thing! - It happens to us all at some stage and I think you have just got to let time heal things eventually!
However - having said that - 4 years is a LONG time to still be dwelling over somebody. Do you get out much or do you have other ambitions in life?
The best way to try and get over someone (I think from experience) is to change direction in life - move to a new job or new town for a while and meet totally new people - you will soon forget the old faces (apart from the people who really matter, ofcourse)!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): god
im the exact same with a guy
it hurts so much and confusing too
does she flirt? if she does ask her why she is confusing u like this
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): Hi, I am sorry to say that i had the same problem with a guy. He liked me but i had never like him in that way and never would. It got complicated. I got a boyfriend and he didn't like that (even though he had no chance with me). Our friendship fell apart. The best thing i can think of for you to do now (from my experience) would be to be her friend and respect her choice. If you continue to push her you may lose her as a friend, and i am sure you don't want that.As for your feelings it may be a good idea for you to spend some time apart to sort your head out. Find hobbies to fill your time and spend time with friends (that isn't the girl in question). Over time your feelings will sort themselves out and hopefully you will be able to move on.
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reader, lilbubbles  +, writes (14 December 2008):
 hey ima girl and i have had a guy lik ethat who cofessed his love to me all the time but i didnt like him but he would not go away! i thinkk you should take it easy tell her you are over her and go out with someone else, if she really does like you she will get jealous and find a boyfriend. then break up with your girlfriend and she will break up with her boyfriend and BAM! you will be together.
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