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*XRyanXx
writes:(She's 20 and i'm 19 and she's in SF and i'm in OC)Ok so me and my gf were going out for 1 year and 3 months and we were absolutely happy until she started having doubts for all the wrong reasons and to elaborate the doubts were never real doubts they were just a front for what was really there. We both had stressful and busy lifes and she lives in SF and i'm in OC(7 hours apart) and she decided this isn't what she needs right not and I understood and took it pretty hard but I stood by her decision and let her know how much I truly love her etc. Now the question is she wants to be my friend still and I still want to be her friend as well because we're best friends before bf/gf but I feel things are changing and she is reasurring me that nothing will chnage etc. what should I do?
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reader, xXRyanXx +, writes (18 June 2009):
xXRyanXx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe had an open sexual relationship and she went on "dates" when we were together and we both liked seeing each other with other girls and guy. It comes and goes but I get insecure sometimes about things when she goes out and idk why
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): You know that guys often want to cut off the relationship but not cut off the regular sex with their old GF. They wanna still get some wanted "benefits" of the realtionship without paying the costs of it anymore.
Well, girls often want to cut off the relationship but not cut off the emotional support of their old BF. It's the same principle. She's basically wanting you to do the emotional heavy lifting, so she can have more fun with other guys. These are probably guys that she couldn't get if she was demanding it from therm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): If you want the woman you want talk about the other guys she's dating and make you feel worthless then go for it!. because ultimately that's the reason why she'd want to keep you around, to be her emotional tampon and shoulder to cry on when some creep takes advantage of her. Cut ties and have nothing to do with her. Remember, the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (16 June 2009):
 Are you going to be able to accept the fact that she's dating other guys?
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