A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:We were together since we were 16 for 5 1/2 years but 2 1/2 years long distance. We've been through everything together, we grew up together, I stuck with him through the Army for a year. Distance was not a problem because we had a strong connection.January 23rd, he was crying really hard on Skype telling me that his feelings changed. He felt like he no longer cared about our relationship and had no idea why. He said that if he could find a way he'd fix it but he feels like it's wrong to drag me along. I immediately went NC and told him to leave me alone so I can heal and that I'd contact him when I'm ready. No Facebook, no emails, NOTHING. He wasn't happy about that. But in the past 2 months of NC I improved my life so much. I look a lot better by changing my hair and clothes, I met someone new and he's so adventurous we ski, snowboard, sky dive, etc., I'm traveling to Asia, I was so happy with life even though I missed my ex.When I started to feel like I was growing closer to this guy my ex contacted me! We have been talking for the past 3 days and he keeps telling me how he made the biggest mistake ever, he doesn't regret anything but breaking up with me was a huge regret, he doesn't want to see anyone else, he thinks I'm so compatible and IT for him, and that he wants me to be his girlfriend. He started crying when he found out through pics on Facebook I was seeing someone new. He said he wanted me back before he found out.He said he felt so embarrassed to ask me. He said he wished he would've talked things out instead of break up with me and now he feels like he is paying a price because I am unsure and dating someone new.I thought I was completely over my ex and falling for the guy I'm seeing...right when I felt like I was growing closer to him my ex pops back into my life...I do love my ex and we were compatable. We have a deep bond...but honestly I feel like he hasn't improved his life at all plus he might be going to Afghanistan in November for a year. I want to go back to him but something is telling me to stay with the new guy. I like the new guy and we have fun, there is a connection but I'm not sure if it's as deep as the ex and I. I feel like I should give the new guy a chance but I'm scared I'll regret not taking my ex back.What do you think is the best decision? I'm afraid I'll regret not taking him back...do you believe if we're meant to be together we'll find a way in the end?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): Nope. Don't get back with him. Stay with the guy you are with, he sounds like a keeper. I'm an avid "No EX" kind of person. Meaning, once they're gone, they're GONE!
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reader, Luv2giveadvice  +, writes (7 April 2011):
NO! Do not go back to him.
Guaranteed the same thing will happen again.
He just feels a void and misses the routine
and comfort of having someone familiar.
Believe me when I say a relationship ends
(especially that way) for a reason.
If he really loved you he would never have felt
that he "didnt care".
I hope you make the right decision.
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