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female
age
41-50,
*elboysbunny
writes:Hi. I need help. My ex boyfriend has started to come back around just to chat as friends, but I feel he wants more than that. I don't think he is ready and I think he is scared of a relationship, even though ours was good.I do still like him and want him back. What can I do? I listen to what he talks about. He has also said that he knows he is not the right man for me, but I think he is wrong; he could be with a little help, just one or two lines to iron out of him. lolWhat can I do?
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reader, Jessie. +, writes (28 March 2008):
if your ex wants you back and you want him back whats the problem? However, ask your self this. Hes called your ex for a reason, remember his faults, why you finished.. Are you really ready to accept why you split up in the first place?
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (10 October 2007):
If you can't accept him as he is, stay away. Otherwise, go for it right away, you're wasting time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): Don't ever think you can change someone. I have seen so many women and girls think their man has "potential". They usually get some kind of satisfaction from thinking they could be the one who moulds that person who just needs a little tweak. Thing is it does not work. You have to take what you get and ACCEPT the faults. Otherwise you will just cause him to resent you. Every guy wants to feel that their partner thinks they are fabulous, just as they are. When you introduce that hint of disappointment it makes them feel bad about themselves and less likely to be with you. I think your ex is right. You need to raise the stakes and only accept a partner who is perfect. Even then you will find things things that you have to accept. If you tell him you can't really have these intimate discussions with him any more because you have a new boyfrind...his ears will perk up. Even if they do don't expect anything at all. All men feel a bit jealous when an ex gets a new man even if they don't want her. It may do your pride some good, that's all.
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