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writes:hi, I have a problem with my ex-girlfriend. after she finished with me we decided to stay friends and i really wanted that because i didn't want to lose her. However i've been feeling like she doesn't want to now. she never makes any effort to get in contact i always have to and she never wants to meet up. when we walk past eachother in school she doesn't even acknowledge my existence, i've tried talking to her about it but she just says i'm being stupid and that she loves me as a friend but im not convinced. i was thinking of stopping getting in contact with her and if she really cares then she will make an effort. any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, vicky520  +, writes (7 June 2010):
i am actually in the same situation. he broke up with me last week and we agreed to be friends and promised each other that there won't be any awkward tension.i believed him. so i think you should stop contacting her or just smile and say hi when you see her in school(don't stop, don't look back, just keep walking). she will eventually talk to you.
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reader, kyle44wonder  +, writes (21 May 2010):
Hey. I know what you feel like man. My ex dumped me and she wanted to be friends but she doesnt txt me back or ring. I seen her in town with her friend and she seen me but then she ditched me into a shop like she didnt want to know me. It sucks man. But dont beat your self up about this ok. Girls are very diffrent to us guys. You will know for sure if she wants to be friends by just quiting all contact with her. If she wants to be your friend she will txt you or call you or talk to you at school about why you r not keeping in contact. Tell her you thought she wasnt talking to you anymore. You HAVE to say this. But if she doesnt come back and talk then you now know that she doesnt want to know you. Just remember she might not contact you back for a few weeks. So dont think that she hasnt contacted you for, say, 3 days now and that means she doesnt want to talk. She will most probably contact back in a week or 2. I hope i helped man. I know just how you feel. if you want to talk more about this, contact me at [email address blocked] Sweet hope i helped man. Lata
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): although this must be very painful for you, she is just playing games and its a form of control. do not contact her, even though u really feel you want to. do not demeen yourself anymore for someone who does not want you. staying friends rarely works out. at first there are too maany emotions involved and you need to be away from your ex to redefine your life and feelings without them. why stay friends. the one that wants to stay friends is usyally the one still trying to control the situation, a bit like having there cake and eating it. they do not want you, but dont want anyone else to have you either. walk away with dignity, to someone who deserves you.
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reader, Jolie  +, writes (27 March 2008):
 HMMmmm it seems now that she got used to the situation that you contact her first .......so if you don't contact her she is going to feel it. she is going to be thinkin like ''oooo how come he didn't contaced me today'' , she will think about it for sure.
If you are in school then ignore her go and chat with other girls, be cool and dont look at her while youre talkin to girls. Date girls and forget the contact with her.
I know its not easy but DO YOUR BEST
Good luck
Jolie
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 March 2008):
 Stay away from her for now and go date other girls.
This may make her jealous and want you back..
Do not be clingy but act confident.
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