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anonymous
writes:i slept with my ex boyfriend last week, and he told my new boyfriend that we slept, i only had sex with him for like 7 minutes. my new boyfriend wont talk to me, keeping tell me to leave him alone
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): the lenght of time is not the issue, you are mature enough to realise this, i hope. whether 20 seconds or 7 minutes as you timed it, it is still cheating, you know it, your ex b/f knows it and certianly your new b/f.
the new b/f is rightly pissed. would you be so blase about it if your new b/f had 7 minutes of sticking his *ick into another woman.
you are lucky your new b/f is only not talking to you, if it was someone else that man will just wash his hands off you.
trust, my darling, was broken. you have to eat humble pie for the next few months (or even years)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): If you slept with your ex, while you were with a new boyfriend, it really don't matter how long you were messing around for. Cheating is cheating. It doesn't matter if it happens in a second, or an hour, or 5 minutes. Who would not be pissed at hearing that happened? Kinda curious about what that says, about your ex, that he'd to right up to this new boyfriend of yours, to let him know what all happened between you two.. unless he WANTED you to get busted for it. Then again, don't be mad at the ex, you chose to do what you did, and just ended up getting called on it, by the person you likely least expected. He IS your EX for a reason mind you..
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reader, Lyshler  +, writes (15 April 2009):
He's right girl,live him alone.U cheated and theres no excuse 4 that.He will never trust you en luv there no luv without trust.Mans are not like us they don't 4get and forgiving is not easy.Jus live him en wait.If he's ok he'll come back.
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reader, between a rock and a hard place  +, writes (15 April 2009):
well no shit hes mad at you, you cheated on him!! But if the thing is you weren't together at the time of the seven minute incident he has no reason to be mad. Everybody has sex. He's just being a pussy basically.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): 7 minutes or 7 hours - does it matter? I think you are not satisfied with your new boyfriend in some way or maybe you are not fully over your ex. Leave your new guy alone and respect his hurt - because you have hurt him - and I think you need to spend some time without a guy at all to get your head straight.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (15 April 2009):
 well if you slept with the ex when you were with your boyfriend then obviously he won't talk to you you've cheated.but why go back to the past?i mean you and your ex ended for a reason right?so what makes you think that the reason has changed?it's still there and you just ruined the future with someone who clearly cared about you.you better had leave your current boyfriend alone i mean he's obviously really hurt by what you did.just give him some time and space.hope this helps.
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reader, colourmekorean +, writes (15 April 2009):
girl your in such an awkward situation. i have done the same with my current boyfriend and ex except he didnt tell my boyfriend. i wouldn't blame my current boyfriend if he told me to leave him alone. for one we shouldn't be hanging out with are exes even if your just good friends because put yourself in your boyfriends shoes, you probably wouldn't want him hanging/talking etc. to his x girlfriend. but its a comfort thing with are exes. if you've been with him long they know you pretty well and you always have that special thing that you had with them. but theres a reason that there our past. and when you go to the past and have sex and whatever else it ruins what you have now. i think you should give him time and he'll come around but there will be problems with him trusting you again. so do things to show to get his trust back with you!
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