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writes:my ex boyfriend and i went out for only 3 months. but we were so in love. we were going to move in together when i had finished school. it was the happiest 3 months of my entire life. we fought...but only over text message...but then we made up and always said i love you so much after everything. we had had another fight one night and he sent me a message saying he was sorry he wants to talk about it in person. i cried so much because i thought he was going to break up with me and i drank till i passed out because i didn't know what else to do...apparently someone kissed me and someone sent a message off my phone saying i was with someone else. 2 or 3 months later after fighting and fighting and him not believing me when i said i had cheated on him passed...i owned up to the drinking but not the cheating because i couldn't have stopped it. just prevented it. i swore to never ever drink again. he got another girlfriend and he told me. i nearly died...i was so upset i didn't eat or anything like that for weeks and my parents were getting worried.we have been talking again lately and he said that he cant just dump his girlfriend now because that would hurt her and it doesn't matter if he still loves me because he can't dump her.i dont know if that means i get another chance??? and im so confused. i cant live without him. he means everything to me. and i don't know how i can get another chance. he told me he has carried my letters around ever since i wrote them. i can't lose him. i won't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks heaps! yeah i suppose so. it was only after a fight and me drinking so much i passed out after that and someone sending him a message saying i was with another guy who was better did he think i cheated on him. its all so confusing but i would die for him and i nearly did. he means more then the normal 'relationship' does.
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reader, LinzyH  +, writes (17 August 2010):
Hi Anon,
Firstly you need to ask yourself if you really want to be with someone who already has a girlfriend but is leading you on as well. I understand that you are in love with him but I don’t think you ever got closure from this relationship so you are unable to move on. If he never believed you for 2-3 months that you did not cheat on him, then he never trusted you. A relationship is based on trust and if you don't have that then you won't get very far.
If he does leave his current girlfriend for you, will you ever be able to trust that he won’t do the same to you? When he talks to another girl will you be suspicious?
I think you need to stop talking to this guy and start afresh. There are plenty of other guys out there who will treat you with respect and trust, don’t just settle for this guy after only 3 months together.
Hope it works out.
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