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writes:My boyfriend dumped me because I love him a lot and he says I deserve better than him.. actually I do but I love him more than anything and I'm dying without him.. how can I get him back? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (16 February 2016):
 Why bother ("getting him back"...). He TOLD you that he's not good enough for you.... so LISTEN TO HIM!!!!!!
Good luck...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 February 2016):
 Sweetie am afraid you can't get him back. I know that you love him, but you need to accept that he does not feel the same way for you. He was kind to let you go when he knew he couldn't feel the same as you. You need to move on. Spend some time grieving for your loss. Cry if you need to. Get support from your friends. Accept that the relationship is over permanently. Then slowly get your life back on track.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2016): The trouble with this comment that "you deserve better" is that it is an "opt-out "phrase.It sounds to the naked ear as if it is a charming and disarming acknowledgement of your true worth.But it is not.It is covered in innuendo.Your guy is telling you as kindly as he can that he doesnt want to be with you.It may be that he has been shagging here and there and finally has decided he could do without the mega scene when he passes on gonorrhea ,so he is dropping you off, before someone close to you reads him the riot act.Seeing as you are so bessotted with him this little phrase will keep you wondering and still loving and caring about him while he gets to the clinic and gets the necessary medicine.You could take the hint and get yourself checked up to see if you are carrying any silent std like chlamydia which is easily fixed once identified but if left untreated can cause infertility which could be very troublesome when you want to settle down and have children.Dont panic, a smart girl would always take a health check at the end of a sexual relationship.It is a responsibility you owe to yourself so you must woman up and get the news asap especially as there are other diseases going round.I know you will say "but we used a condom" and of course you did but a few of these things get transmitted at the early stages so be brave and get a check so that you know where you stand.If you get a clean bill of health you will need to look for someone with a higher committment level.I expect the grapevine will reveal exactly who,what, where and why he finally decided to put an end to his version of friends with benefits but be glad it is over and forget about loving someone who thinks of themselves before he thinks of you.You have elevated him to a status he can never match in reality but he is not one to tell you the truth.It would suit him fine if you just kept pining for him while he sorts out his next blip.Thats why he chose a phrase that he hoped would keep you hanging on in there for him while he gets a bit of a chance to move around with someone else.After all your body is as good as it gets but he"s ready to pass for now.None of this is a reason to be angry with yourself.You can guarantee that someone has been lusting after you while youve been tied up with your ex.But dont go throwing yourself at his mates.Of course they all would want to know you but be cautious little sister.Dont jump straight back into the fire unless you are wearing asbestos feelings because you have a bit of adjustment to do.Having said that I know things happen really fast for eighteen to twenty year olds so I suggest you move into a better relationship at a time that you deem yourself ready to do so, but please try not to get passed around his mates.You sound beautiful and may prefer to be a little choosy for a while.Remember that you are a person in your own right and not one of his cast offs.Value yourself and your future. Look at the situation carefully .Dont go off the deep end but tell yourself you really are worthy of better but as you are young remind yourself that these things happen.When one door is closed many more are opened....
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