A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi folks. Question I have been off my work due to a injury I am now thinking of going back, as the money is really good, and there is no job opportunities where i stay.my partner knew my job situation and always thought it was great what I do. My job took me away from home up to three weeks at a time, and I make more than him. I came to live with him just before I had accident, and he has looked after me and we have become close, I found out after I moved in with him he had been seeing someone else in the early stages of our relationship, they were obviously having sex, I seen the messages on his mobile he had deleted, but you could read out the beginning of them, I wasn't snooping I was using his mobile to send a text. I was devastating as I left my home, my family who are grown up, and my friends. We had a row he pushed me, I fell and hurt myself, he still denied it.I stayed as I had moved hundreds of miles with everything I own.no one knows why I hurt myself and he is so sorry, he has never put a foot wrong since, but I need to get back to work, I've no money and my life here is so lonely. I have no friends, I don't get out as ive no money and he has been keeping the roof over my head. We only go out as a couple and he's not been interested in going out so much as I find it uncomfortable when I see this girl in town.He works with all his family and is close to his brother who is currently single. His brother also hangs around with a group of young girls including the girl my partner was sleeping with and if i go back to my job I am sure he will be out partying with his brother.because his brother still stays at home with the parents at 30, I knew he will be looking for a party place maybe to take girls home too. Everything in here is mine, and really I'm beside myself thinking already what will be going on while I'm away.I don't expect my partner to sit at home, but we are trying to save money for a few things, and if he were to go back to that life style I know his money will go down the drain, as he will be offered drugs as well. He used to take recreational ones before I knew him. I am so stressed at what might happen if I do go away again.His brother has always tried to come between us, we have been together three years now, his brother still calls him snd asks if he wants to come down the street and see all the stunners out, and I'm sitting next too him.I don't know what to do for the best. I don't want a repeat of the beginning, but I want to trust my man.I need help to decide what to do here.We are planning to get married at some point too.I had a breakdown over what happened before and I'm really scared. I don't want to split up I really do love him.
View related questions:
a break, drugs, money, moved in, split up, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 February 2016):
 I am fully aware that you love him, but do you think he loved you when he was having sex with that other woman? Do you think he loved you when he pushed you over and hurt you? He hasn't even admitted it, which makes him a huge coward as well as a cheat.
I feel sorry for you and your situation I really do, but are you really sure this is the man you want to marry? Someone who is capable of cheating? Off physically being violent to you. Someone who acts like he is single when you are not there?
This is not the life that I would want for myself anyway. I think you need to raise your standards. I am sorry you have left all your family and friends to be with this man, but in my head this was probably the worst mistake that you have ever made. If it was me I would be taking my life and moving it back home to be surrounded with people that love me, I would not let any man treat me like this. Please think off yourself and your happiness.
|
