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writes:I need some advice. My boyfriend broke up with me almost 5 months ago because he says he's afraid of commitment, but we have still remained in some contact with each other, basically only through emails. He told me that he's dating someone else only after I told him that I was talking to someone else, this was back in June. Now, I'm about to move in a month and he's been telling me if I need anything to let him know and that I can call him anytime I wanted to. He hasn't gotten in touch with me only when I make the first move but he always responds back. Also, I told him that I don't want to bother him but he always says that I'm never a bother and that he enjoys hearing from me. Can anyone make sense of this and let me know why he's being this way to me? And, is it possible that he's not dating anyone else? Because, if he was, I think he wouldn't be telling me that I could call anytime I wanted to and that he will always be there for me. Thanks for your help!
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reader, broken hart  +, writes (20 September 2007):
he still cares about you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): Maybe he wants to keep you on the backburner incase it doens't work out with his "girlfriend" Either that or he wants sex. People on here give such nicey, squishy advice, but we have to be real here. If an ex boyfriend is going out of his way to be overly nice to you, there is probably a selfish reason behind it.
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (20 September 2007):
 I think he genuinely cares about you and still want to be connected to you even if not romantically. My boyfriend has remained frieds with many of his exes and will still go over and fix the leaky faucet of his ex that he broke up with 11 years ago! He is a kind hearted, generous guy who wants the people who he once cared so much about (and vise versa) to always be a part of his life. He wants everyone to love him. Sometimes this has come at the detriment of his current relationship with me and I am afraid that I may soon become one of those exes he is still connected to. By putting them first he has done a lot of damage to our relationship, but it is conforting to know that he will always be there for me, even when we do break up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNow, he's emailing me saying that he's been meaning to call me and he just can't put me out of his life because I was just too good to him and he doesn't want to either. I told him that I just don't want to get in the middle of him and his girlfriend and he wrote back saying that he understands.
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reader, blissxixta  +, writes (20 September 2007):
 Hi
I think your ex had been feeling abit uncomfortable to tell you that he is not ready for commitment...that is always the case with anyone with gulity heart.Mayb he knows he is been unfair to you to break up so to make up with his conscience he had to tell to get in touch anytime. in some cases he might be seeing someone else but must have explained the past to her ...and u know a understanding heart is what matter in a relationship. so she i mean d girlfriend may understand that he got notting to do with you. if he is not really seeing some1 at present and still didnt get in touch with then he still out searching for another person. i need you to know this he is coming back to you. he is out the relationship ..heis just tryin to clear his conscience for good..if he still loves he would come back to u not waiting for u to call first. we all know what we want ...and whatever it is we wanted we go for it..TRUST ME. Move on and have a big hart ....u can neva say, someone else out there is waiting for u to give him just smile to filled his mind.You are beautiful that is why u were made ALWAYS REMEBER THAT.
REMAIN BLISS GIRL!
Blixx
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (20 September 2007):
 he's probably trying to make amense for hurting you when he broke up with you. i wouldn't read to much into it, i mean what he says and does are differnt things.
alot of people on here make points of saying their boyfirend secretly still talks to his ex, unfortunatley i think you would fall into the category of the ex and therefore he is playing a dangerous game and is not worth the agro.
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