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writes:I am still madly in love with my ex . He broke up with me because he said he was getting sick of my moods . It was unexpected because he really loved me and I was confused . A few weeks later my best friend started hanging out with him and I started getting lots of ideas . This caused me to loose my best friend and obviously my ex was on her side . He is being so rude towards me behind my back and his friends are also extremely rude . Now I love this guy with all my heart and I believe in fighting for the people I love but it really seems like he'll never get back together with me . I miss him and I know what we had was good . I really think his friends have a big influence oh him , do you think he'll give me a second chance one day ? He honestly loved me and its hard to seem him everyday and not be with him .
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 October 2012):
 I don't see my next door neighbors every day for goodness sake.
you Say you are hearing from people that he’s rolling his eyes or saying rude things… sounds to me like he is making it clear he’s over you…
Now as for why you STILL love him…
You fell in love with him when you were dating… but WHY… ask yourself this.. I do not think you truly love him… you have not given me any concrete reasons.
You miss the laughs… what kind of laughs.. does he tell good jokes? Or was it the fun times you always had… why were you so moody if it was always a barrel of laughs…
Were all the times good? Are you saying that he broke up with you because you were moody but that you two never had a bad moment or a single fight?
Or are you selectively remembering what was good and forgetting the fights?
HE really loved you? How do you know this? IF he really loved you, your moodiness would not have been an issue. I love a man who has so many faults they are as long as my arm. I still love him and I’m still with him, faults, moods, bad times and all… because that’s LOVE…
EVERY moment was magical? EVEN the bad ones? I’m sensing that you have a selective memory here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionif someone mentions my name or something he will say something rude or roll his eyes , well that's what people tell me . I still love him because I fell in love with when we were dating so its hard to get over him and I miss the laughs , the good times we had , every moment spent with him . It was good because he really loved me and I really love him and every moment was magical .I see him everyday because he lives down the road.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 October 2012):
How can someone be rude to you behind your back?
Why are you in love with a guy that’s rude to you behind your back?
Why are you in love with a guy that didn’t even let your seat cool beside him when he ended it with you before he took up with your former best friend?
WHAT exactly do you miss about him?
WHY was it good… I ask these questions rhetorically (as I do all my questions) so that YOU may think about what you are saying… I find often when folks say they MISS someone what they miss is what that person represents.. or they miss what they want that person to BE not what the person is…
Why do you see him every day?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2012): move on. its obvious that he does not want to get back with you. it is hard when you love someone and it is not returned. i know this from experience, i was married for 20 years and my husband left me for someone else. time will heal you, but you will never forget him. find someone that will make you happy and fill the open hole in your heart do not linger on with this trust me. i am still hurting from mine and thought he would come back i waited for 8 months and now he has gotten her pregnant. so i waisted my tears on him for nothing. he might regret it later but dont wait. life is too short be happy and live.
my best to you
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