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writes:Ok so.. I'm currently in a relationship and have been for 9months, and still feel like I haven't fallen inlove with him or strong feelings for him, in a way I feel I'm being unfair to him because I dont feel the same way as he feels about me.My ex and I have been friends for 4 years now (after our break up), at one stage after we broke up we kept sleeping with each other when ever we wanted to hook up.At the end of it I started to fall inlove with him and I realised I wanted something more with him that he couldn't give (a relationship) so I told him it had to end and it wasn't fair to me and my emotions.We've gone out for lunch as mates a few times since then and have become good friends, although I can still feel the sexual tension between us I decide to ignore it.Just last weekend my ex's little brother was asking if I had another chance with my ex would I take it and he told me that there's a chance he still wants to be with me and that he talks about me alot to his little brother etc.Since he told me that I've been thinking about my ex alot since then, even the next day while I was with my partner at his house...My question is what should I do? Should I take a chance and give up on a nine month relationship with a really sweet guy for a one night stand or possibly even a relationship with my ex.. ???
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): I know exactly what you're going through. I love my boyfriend and i've been with him for over a year now, and my ex has came back into the picture and wants me back. I'm saying that if you don't love the guy that you're with, it's unfair to him because we all want someone we love love us back. But be careful with exes because history tends to repeat itself. Hope this Helped!-AskAlexandria
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (17 June 2009):
 maybe this feeling for him you don't understand is there for him is actually the love you do have for him. i don't think he's just telling you he loves you not after 9 months i think he knows it's you he wants and it's you he's going to keep hence him telling you he loves you. this feeling you're having towards him is probably love but you're too afraid to admit it incase he actually turns around to reject it...? could be a possibility i mean you say you don't think he means it but i mean after 9 months? i think he's going to mean what he says he's been with you this long and he's not going to leave now whether you say i love you and mean it or not mean it he'll be there for you, that's why you probably won't admit to yourself that you do love him because you're afraid he'll take back what he's said and not mean it. if that makes sense.
hope this helps hun. x x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for your advice, you've really helped!!
My ex and I were together for only 3days yep 3days lol. We broke up cos at the the time we really didn't know each other and sort of jumped into it.
As for my bf I care about him alot, and I'm protective of him.
Thing is I'm not head over heels in love with him but I feel something for him, its hard to explain. I can't help but get the feeling that maybe he doesn't really love me and that maybe his just saying it cos he thinks thats what I want to hear??
Why are relationships so damn complicated? lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for your advice, you've really helped!!
My ex and I were together for only 3days yep 3days lol. We broke up cos at the the time we really didn't know each other and sort of jumped into it.
As for my bf I care about him alot, and I'm protective of him.
Thing is I'm not head over heels in love with him but I feel something for him, its hard to explain. I can't help but get the feeling that maybe he doesn't really love me and that maybe his just saying it cos he thinks thats what I want to hear??
Why are relationships so damn complicated? lol
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (16 June 2009):
well the way i see it is you and your ex broke up for a reason that reason will always be there and will always come up during arguments. you guys will get back together and forget why you broke up but then when you argue or whatever that reason will be more visible and you'll think to yourselves "this is why we ended".i'd never go back to an ex because as i've said we broke up for a reason that reason never goes away it still stays.i mean you've been with this guy for 9 months and you don't love him? perhaps it's best you leave both guys alone i mean you clearly aren't over your ex and you clearly don't have strong enough feelings for your current boyfriend it's a bit unfair to keep being in a relationship with him if you're not feeling the same he does it's like lying to him a bit.anyways you do what you feel is best for you. if you want your ex back then go for it but do whatever you feel will make YOU happy. hope this helps :) good luck x x x x
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