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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:hi, i broke up with my ex about 3 weeks ago. we were good for like 3 months and the he started to act weird, kinda distant. I tried to give him space and didn't hassle him. the weekend before we broke up we had a drunken conversation where he told me that he wants to be my boy and has all these feelings for me but feels like he's loosing his friends and me time ( I never asked him to hang or told him not to do his own thing, gave him lots of space and only hanged with him if he asked me first and it suited me)so i told him to just chill, he did for like 2 mins and all of the sudden he started to tell me that he is ice cold and close ppl out and even if he had hottest girls running after him he still wouldn't be interested. I was confused about his point and got really upset and walked away. He didnt try to call after me or anything. next day we had a conversation and he told me that he feels like he has to spend every moment with me and message/call me. I dont know why because i was really conscious about not making him feel that way. i tried to explain that he was wrong and that i dont understand why he feels so trapped. anyways in the end i got so upset that i just coldly stated that he is not ready for a relationship and that problem solved, im out. He agreed and didnt try to stop me. next day when he dropped my stuff off he told me that its not that he doesnt like me but that he cant give me what i want!!???i really like him and miss him and i want him back. he is no calling or messaging me, ive sent him couple of friendly messages but nothing related to us or our relationship. before me he had a girlfriend for 3 years and they got engaged but it didnt work out....is he still not over her? or is he simply just not into me? when things were great they were great....so if hes not into me why pretend? is there a chance for us to get back together? if there is how should i go about it without scaring him and to make him feel not pressured. i dont want to rush into anything either i just wanna spend time with him and see where it goes.please help
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reader, cherry cherry boom boom  +, writes (16 June 2009):
Ok the first thing you need to do is stop texting him confront him face to face. There could be a million resons why he is not responding texting can leave you with a million questions. This ya girl, peace.
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