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writes:Back about 5 years ago I started dating this guy (I'll call him D) D and I dated for 2 and a half years. About a year into this relationship (he always hated that word) we started having problems. I didn't want to let him go, so we continued to date and the problems never got worse but never seemed to get better either. Then, one day he up and tells me that for the past year he hasnt loved me. Yet for this entire year he said he did. I stayed single for a year and a half after this when I finally started dating a guy I have known about half of my life. We'd even known we liked each other for 5 or so years. (I'll call this guy S) S had problems with his last relationship as well, his girlfriend cheated on him. S and I have been dating for 3 months, we both know we love each other. I want to tell him 'I love you' but am terrified that those feelings I had of the day that D broke up with me would come back to hurt me. I love this guy so much. Please help me know what the right thing to do is.
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reader, mel_22  +, writes (7 February 2007):
 If this guy really loves you and you really love him then go for it you have nothing to lose you know that you can pick yourself up dust yourself off and start again. I'm sure he will be delighted he's probably as scared as you are xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): hey hun, ive been in the same place.... its horrible and scary and you dont want to get hurt again. But if you know that you love him and you know he loves you, tell him. You dont have to make it into a big huge proposal style ceremonial "I love you", just do it in a lighthearted way and see how he reacts. The other thing you could do, that I did in the begining with my bf,(we have been together 9 months now... this was in th first month for us...) was whisper it really really quietly when we were in bed. He would always hear me, and say it back... But i figured that if he didnt want to hear that or didnt feel the same for me... he could just totally ignore it, lol!! Anyways, hope this helps, jsut a few ideas!
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