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writes: Hi. Just need a little advice. I split up with my gay boyfriend (21) a few months back after he left me as he said he was having feelings for his friend who is 33 and has just had a marriage break-up and he has two kids. Anyway, contact between us since has been good and we met up at the weekend when he told me things were not working out for him and this other guy, as he says he feels second best to this guy's children - which I always warned him about.Anway, we met at the weekend and he told me that he wasn't happy. We spent the day together and it was such a great feeling. At the end of the day he gave me a full on kiss, saying he just had the urge. I know that he is waivering and I would have him back in a second as I love him so much. He later texted me that night. He knows how I feel about him. What should I do. Should I make contact or just play things cool and wait for him to come running back. Has anyone had similar experiences. He knows that we could be happy together and I know he is the one for me, he has just made a mistake but I don't want to crowd him. Any tips?
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (2 May 2006):
 Hmm.... seem to remember this post originally and remember the history here. It seems your still hooked on this guy, and it looks as if things didn't work out with the guy he left you for.
I would say, just be careful you don't get hurt again, I know it's no use saying don't go there again as it's obvious you will, no matter what.
As for whether you go running after him or leave him to do the running, does it matter, he knows you'll be there if he calls and so do you, I don't think you'll play hard to get somehow, you want him back too much!
My advice to you would be not to let this guy use you as a safety net, make sure he wants a relationship like you do before committing yourself to him, or you might find you end up feeling used when the next guy he fancies comes along and your dumped again.
Good luck!
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