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writes:If anyone can give me their opinion? I broke up with my ex about 5 months go. He met someone else and i found out about it. However, many times he would try to speak to me again just when I was starting to move on. I would ignore his communication but he insists. I know its my fault that I gave in coz i still love him. He broke up with the girl just a month after he left me.Anyway, the latest about us is that he still calls me from time to time. Asking how I am etc. We don't meet though. Just talk over the phone or text. Well, i did something stupid. I made up a fake account on a chat site and started chatting with him. I just wanted to find out what he's up to these days, maybe he will be honest on chat. I was wrong. He was such a jerk and used abusive words. It totally surprised me. And he was very sexually aggressive, using foul sexual words. Then at the point where I asked him about relationships, he said he is currently in a relationship right now with this girl he is crazy about. This was the girl he left me for. He said some stuff that were true but totally denied about me. Although he said he had an ex coworker but described her as in the description of me. But we never worked together. Anyway, he said this coworker was crazy about him and that he won't give her a chance coz he didn't like this girl, he said she was not good sexually, physically..all those insulting stuff. I am deeply hurt. Why did he say that? He just called me last week just to ask how I am.Because of this, I am blocking him from everything he can contact me with. But I don't understand why he denied me and said very insulting things. If that is so, why call me then if i am disgusting to him?Can anyone make me understand?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 February 2010):
He's just a selfish, self centred little boy. And now you know you need to continue to ignore him. However, before you you do tell him you never want to hear from him again, tell him about the account and that you know what he is really upto and what he really thinks. Don't be angry when you do it, just be calm and say that it's clear that he is so into himself you can never trust him or talk to him again. And this time mean it. Cut all contact. He's just someone who loves himself too much. Don't sit there looking for an explanation, because you won't get one. Accept that he is an asshole, tell him you know all about him and then cut contact. Remember, it's not you, it's him. He wants to have his own way with every girl he can, and was lying to this fake post because he wanted what he thought was another real girl. Leave him in the past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): Sorry to be so blunt but this guy is such a tosser. If he does have another girlfriend, why exactly is he hanging around on chat sites? Imagine you were with him. He'd still be doing the same thing.
And the aggressive behaviour? I think he is showing his true colours there. I know you're in love with him, but you have to try and move on. You deserve so much better than this low, insulting loser. My advice, don't even contact him anymore or ask him about the bad behaviour. It's not worth it.
I think he has insulted you obviously because he is hurt. It's his way of dealing with what has happened between the both of you. Let him have his agressiveness. You are beter than that anyways. I am a firm believer of karma. He'll get his own back. Trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): You would probably be better off if you never talked to him again. I can't tell you the exact reason he calls you, but if he doesn't want anything more than a friendship with you and you do, then you should cut contact with this extremely shallow and self-centered guy. He probably calls you to boost his own pathetic ego, guys who look at nothing but appearance are the most insecure types out there. Look for someone who cares about you for you and not for your body. If you really love someone, then they will look beautiful to you no matter what their shape or size is. Remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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reader, It-Jay  +, writes (26 February 2010):
 Nice set up! It's only unfortunate that you were hurt. Anyway, forget about him and move on. It's just obvious that he doesn't deserve you.
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