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writes:My ex of 3yrs has recently came into the picture after being broken up for 7 months. It started with her texting me on my bday. I kept it short and sweet and said Thank You and that was it. I just started dating someone (nothing serious) around that time and felt bad. However, I still love my ex and our break up was devastating for me. We had a great relationship, and get along great..we're best friends, but things just fell in a comfort zone and she felt that I was treating her more like a friend than anything and decided to end things. Big lesson learned on my part. She has her own issues, that may have caused me to act a certain, but that's another story. We are both at fault. I soon found out she met someone else right after we broke up and that destroyed me even more. I know it was a rebound, but still.Fast forward to now, we kept the texts going and she expressed how she still loved me and missed me and I did too. We finally met up and it was like old times again. I was still dating, but I wasn't sure what her status was. I figured she was single if she came out to see me, but that wasn't the case. I later found out that she had just left the other person for the 3rd time around the time we met up. So, we began to hang out, text, but as friends. I wasn't sure about the current person I was dating and seeing my ex was giving me hope that we'd get back together again. I didn't push or bring anything up to her. I figured if she wanted me back she'd tell me. Well, one day she text me that we need to talk at some point and I thought it was bad, but she said it was a good thing. Then she continued to say she misses me, thinks of us a lot. So when I brought it up, she said she wasn't ready to have that conversation. So I backed off, but later she opened up and told me about what's been going on. Pretty much, soon after she texted me all that, she said she got confused. She said she broke up with this other person 3 times and that she stopped talking to her around the time her and I started to talking again. The person got crazy and resilient on her and it was making my ex sick. My ex said that if I didn't hear from her, to please understand that she's just needing the space to figure things put. She said that when she's with me she's at peace, that I'm her best friend and have 3yrs over this other person. Yet, she doesn't want to hurt me or give me false hope. After that convo, we still hung out and kept in touch and even went on a mini vacation. It was great, but at the same time, I was hoping she'd come around and decide to get back together. Well, about a few weeks ago, I noticed a change in her. Her txt's were short and less. After days of wondering, I confronted her via email/tetxs. She finally said she wasn't ignoring me, but that she's confused again. So it's been nothing but torture for me again. She still says she misses me and feels good when she's around me and that she thinks of me everyday. So now she is leaving for 2 weeks to her country to hopefully come back with a clear mind. I was happy to hear that and think it's a great idea, but I'm so afraid of the outcome. I have given her the time and space she needs and don't want to smother her and make things worse. Today we txt'd and she said it's not easy for her and that she suffers knowing I suffer. She says she has no peace anywhere, which I assume she means with either the other person or me. She keeps saying she hopes I'm around when she gets back. I just don't know what to think or do. I love her and want her to be my forever and she knows this. It's making me emotionally sick over this because I miss her and really want us to be together and knowing she's confused makes it so hard to deal. What does anyone suggest I do?
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reader, la petite belle +, writes (14 August 2012):
 Oh my! I'm almost on the same boat... except he only told me once that he missed certain things and after I told him to stop talking to me like he never talked to me again.... and I think he LOVES this girl, while he lusts after me... breaks my heart...
I wish I could tell you something... but I'm just as clueless as you are... I wish i could tell you something more than "hang in there" but trust me that I know EVERYTHING that you are feeling... I know what your heart is feeling when you are still hung up on that person...
I'd give anything to be with him...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2012): Give her the time she wants. When you really love someone you give them their space and let them figure things out .
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