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writes: i have a 2 year ld daughter with my ex but now am living with my new partner who has taken my child on as his own. I have cheated several times with my ex, even in our house! Now i swore it wouldn`t happen again and it hasn`t and i wanna be faithful to my new man. My ex threatens to tell my new man the truth if he can`t see our daughter most days which is hard cos he asks last minute and i always have to cancel our plans. My new partner would definately split with me if he found out the truth but i am severley depressed that my life is been controlled by my ex. What can i do i know i have been so stupid but i can`t change it but i don`t wanna lose my new man.
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reader, seenitdoneit +, writes (15 August 2006):
Tell him first and risk being dumped. If you give him the reasons why and tell him you would never do that to him, he should give you a second chance. If he doesn't then he can't be that into you in the first place. PS Your ex is a louse
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reader, camille  +, writes (15 August 2006):
 I'm afraid that it's a case of you made your bed you have to lie in it. Don't give in to his blackmailing though. Either tell the truth and rid yourself of the burden. Yes he may split with you (who could blame him) but at least you won't be looking over your shoulder for the rest of your life. Your ex is mean to manipulate you in this way, so maybe call his bluff, he may not say anything. It's a risk you take but sadly, your own doing. Concentrate on being a good Mum and tell your partner there are ground rules of access and stick to them no matter what his threats are.
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (15 August 2006):
 Well, thats just it. Thats your past and thats your ex. If I were you I would tell him myself as you did make those mistakes. Now, you have a chance to start over again and if you let your ex blackmail you into doing what he wants who knows how far it can go. Take the control out of his hands. It might not sit well with your new man but it is your past. Let him know that it won't happen again. You haven't given him a reason not to trust you so he should understand that you have changed your ways. You can't live in the past. Don't let something so simple as converstation drive you to depression. Good Luck!
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