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writes:My ex is a player,just recently he has been in contact with me,i told him i could only be his friend,i went round his house for a coffee,and he didnt respect my wishes and tried it on,im really glad i didnt give in to him,while i was there,a lady phone from some insurance company trying to sell insurance,he tried to chat her up,now i see he's added her on facebook,poor girl she is only young,he's in his 40s.i would like to warn her,he doesnt seem to care.i feel like getting revenge on the guy and hurting him badly for what he did to me,and to other women.he says he's not being horrible,and he does jobs for women in there houses,its like he is trying to justify for what he does.im a softy and when he calls i feel sorry for him,when he tells me these sob stories about himself.why do i do this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): It sounds like he suffers from sexual addiction. At any rate, he's your ex. You don't have to listen to his sob stories. Hang up the next time he calls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): You do his probably because you have history together-you can't spend time with someone and then not forget about them but there comes a time when you have to allow yourself to move forward.
You wouldn't feel like you want to get revenge if you didn't still have to hear what he is up to regarding women.
If you have the strength then delete him from facebook and change your number-or block his.
That way you can move forward in your life without having him drag you back-he is your ex for a reason it obviously wasn't meant to be. You are worth more than someone who tries it on with women at any opertunity.
Good Luck in your life and I hope you can meet someone who is worth your time :D x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): Because he's a player and he's good at it and while you say you don't like it, something inside you does or you wouldn't fall for his sob story crap.
The guys is good, I'll give him that, he knows that if you don't give up and you say the right things most women will give you what you want, even you said yourself you were proud you were able to resist his charms at least once. You wouldn't have said that if it wasn't tempting for you.
He's not being horrible, like you these are all women with free will and a choice. We let people use us, if we didn't let them then they couldn't use us that's how it works.
Now I don't like the way he acts anymore than you do, but he's going to do it no matter what. If you wanna stay being his friend then just let him get on with it, if you truly think he's a horrible guy then why are you even wasting your time with him, he's shown you all he wants from you is sex yet you keep going back to him. You want revenge? The cut him out of your life. Let the other women take care of themselves.
Again he only did these things to you because you let him, you know he's a player and you still went over for coffee, he tried it on again. Now if you want to keep playing this guys game then stop complaining about it and play. If you want an easy life then move on. It's your decision.
You don't step into a lions den then get pissed off because the lions ate your arm, then go around trying to find ways to get revenge on them, when you knew beforehand those lions could be hungry. You can't change a lions nature, you will always be food to a lion if it gets hungry it will try and eat you, they won't care that you don't want to be eaten. That's their nature. The same as this guy is a sex pest, when he gets horny he will want to bed you and that's that.
Don't go looking for revenge on a person who you allow treat you like this, he shouldn't treat anyone like that but you know he does so you should know better. You allowed this to happen knowing full well what he's like, even after he's hurt you lots of times you still went back. Your life, your decision to go back, he will try it on and why not, you let him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): dont waste your energy and time on revenge. He's your ex. you could never possibly address all the girls he will continue to hurt over the years. If you knew how many you would be shocked. He's not into love, just sexual gymastics for his ego. You cannot stop that continuing. And that is not your role, nor your problem any more. Good move on your part to break up with him. Just move on. Dont go back to visit him, he's a master manipulator of women. And dont feel sorry for him. Put your energy into things that uplift you. Revenge is a degrading act. Be above that. He'll never learn, no matter what you try. In the end he'll be a sad man who may finally wake up that he's wasted his life, chasing skirt.
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