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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I love my bf to bits even though he said he is not going to marry me at all. I am an divorcee and elder to him by 3 years. I know that he uses me sometimes. I have tried so hard to leave him, but i couldnt do so. My first marriage was a big disaster, i tried to make the marriage work for 4 years, but i couldnt take it anymore, so i left him. I dont have kids from first marriage. In India its difficult for an divorcee to get married again. Its like my life is so doomed forever. I am so scared and depressed that i am going to die alone without anyone to share my life with. I am just going mad, thinking about my future and how i am going to deal when my bf gets married to someone of his parents choice. I think i might have such a low self esteem to hang onto to something which is never meant to be mine. But if i leave it i am sure i will never find anything as good as this. I know i dont make sense at all, but please please do help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): No worries. You will definitely find someone. My very personal opinion is that the situation would be difficult if you had a child, but it is not your case. Try to relax a bit, you will be more beautiful without all the stress. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): Hi,
1st of all get rid of yr current BF.whats the point of dating a guy that wont marry you and will "devalue" you even more than 1st marriage
My cousin is a divorcee in India and she married again.
Next time make sure that you are with a man who will not use you like yr current BF and one who is likely to marry you.
Dont look to someone else for yr happiness
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 Ok well not everyone gets married and marriage is not for everyone, you have been married and it hasnt worked out, so why do you worry about getting married again? Its only a piece of paper at the end of the day, my advice would be to just live everyday grateful for live, enjoy time you spend with your boyfriend, if he is using you though it is going to knock your self asteem issues down even further, so you can get out of the relationship now or pay the price later that is your choice. You dont need marriage to be happy therefore you are not doomed just enjoy independent life and if the right man comes along just enjoy every minute because nothing lasts forever.
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