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anonymous
writes:Here it is valentines day and my exbfs doing everything he can to make mine blue. He broke up with me but's punishing me because I stopped feeling sorry for myself and pushed myself out the dumps. He didn't give a horses butt how I felt that he went back with his exgf. He's still with his exgf so get over it. He broke up with me. If I want to have 8 bfs that's none of his business. He acts like I was the one who wanted out which is to the contrary. He's spreading rumors and lies to make me look bad. He despises my bf. I'm fed up with his nonsense. Should I tell his gf what he's doing? I don't care about him anymore so it's not like I'd being telling her to cause them trouble. It's just need to get him off my touche. Do you think if I talk to him he'll get whatever it is he's after and just back up off of me? Should I tell his mum to talk to him? My bf has a short fuse and I don't want my bf to wind up in jail from fighting him up. I'm ignore everything he does but it's getting the better of me. He's annoying. I wouldn't have him again if he was the last man on the planet. I had to be desperate back in the day. He's kinda looks like the frito lay man with a big nose. I can't say anything good about him probably because I resent him punishing me for breaking up with me. He's a idiot frito lay boy with a fat nose.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (14 February 2011):
 You shouldn't go telling other people. Deal with him directly, preferably in front of his GF. That way she sees what an ass he's being and will question him about it.
If he still doesn't back off, then perhaps talk to his mom, but I've always found that people like this just look like fools to people. Especially if you take the high road and ignore their bullshit. They just look like the jealous tools they are, and people will see the truth soon enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): Your ex is clearly jealous that you're out having fun. He'd much rather be smugly telling his new gf how heartbroken you are over him, and how you begged him to come back to you. It would really flatter his ego!
But you're not playing ball. You're moving on, having fun, playing the field a little, and enjoying yourself. He's seething with jealousy and annoyance that you're not singing to his script! So he's finding new ways of attracting your attention and making you miserable.
You know what the best thing you can do is to handle this? Ignore it! Every time you react to him, you send a message that says 'What you say or do is important to me'. Every time you reply, or get annoyed, or rise to the bait, he wins.
So no, don't tell his mum, or his girlfriend, or your boss, or the school counsellor, or your best friend, or anyone else. Instead of worrying about junk in your life, get on with living and have some fun. It really will be the best revenge!
If you stop reacting, he will sink his own ship. Don't worry about rumours - people rarely believe what they hear from an ex (and those who do are idiots!) If you don't react, people will soon start asking him 'Why are you trying to spread rumours about her if you're so over her? Why do you care?' His new gf will also soon start asking him why he's so obsessed with you and what you're doing. Basically, you'll be happy, and he'll look sad and pathetic.
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