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writes:My ex boyfriend dumped me at the beginning of December because, in his own words, he didn't have time for a girlfriend.Straight after he dumped me I applied the No Contact rule, and was doing great until he text me at New Year asking how everything was.It threw me a bit, but I didn't reply, because I thought he was testing to see if he still had me.And on Monday, I decided to text him, and ask how he was.In Heinz-sight, I probably shouldn't have because his response was 'Omg you're alive! How've you been? Why did you ignore my text at New Year? Hows your family? Hows college?' blah blah blah. So we had a text conversation, and he was calling me babe and telling me he still loves me, and that was the last time we spoke.I'd been thinking about it all week, and last night I text him telling him I still love him and I would do anything to go back to how we were, because I wanted to see how/if he would react to find out whether he actually did still love me and wanted me back or whether he was just playing games.Needless to say, he didn't respond, so I text him not long ago today just saying that his silence spoke volumes, and it's fine that he doesn't feel the same, but I'm going to move on properly now so I'd appreciate it if he wouldn't contact me again asking how I'm doing because I end up back at square 1 and it's not fair because it's jerking my chain, and I wished him all the best in his life. Again, he hasn't replied.But now I know he was just playing with me to see if he still had me, and I feel a bit disappointed in myself for blurting my feelings out, but in a way am glad I did because I found out sooner rather than later that he was just messing around with my feelings, because I gave him the chance to tell me he loved me or to reject me, and he did neither. Silence speaks volumes in my opinion.I'm going to go back to No Contact now, with a view to never speaking to this lame twat again and completely getting him out of my life for the better and not giving in. But how do I pick myself up again after this big mistake and carry along the path of recovery?
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reader, gurunikki +, writes (17 January 2010):
this first thing i would suggest that you do would be to change your number so that this lame idiot cant contact you again. secondly make sure that you have as much fun as you can, go out with friends, start a new hobby etc. just remember that you are a fantastic person and are much better off without this "boy" in your life, you will soon get over him and see that there are much better men out there for you that will treat you with respect. If you need to talk just msg me. i wish you all the luck in the world.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 January 2010):
Just never reply or speak again, and really focus on your own life. Build up your own esteem, make sure you're out having fun with friends and you'll start to get over him. And then when you're ready you'll meet someone better. Maybe start something new as well, to take your mind off it all. Always leave ex's in the past. They're ex's for a reason.
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