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writes: Is it dodgey only to have something to do with your ex just because he is giving you money to support yourself and child? If I didn't I wouldn't even be able to pay rent alone...hard to move coz have no money and bad name on tica. Am looking for a job but makes it hard with him in my face all the time; it's like a catch 22!! Not sure how to resolve this one. He is the reason we broke up. I guess I could justify it like that, but it feels wrong. I've told him I didn't want his money if it meant that he thought it would win me back or change my mind about him and all the things he did wrong. Despite making it clear so that I wouldn't be outright "using" him, he still chooses to help us. But why do I feel so guilty? And - is there any way I could get out of this predicament without having to wait til I get a job? He makes me feel terrible whenever he's around as he has for many years, but I feel I have no choice now that I have a child to support. Please help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006): There's no reason you have to be stuck with your ex when the relationship is over, just because of child support. I suggest you contact the child support agency in your area. They can determine how much support your ex is required give you, automatically deduct it from his pay, and you get a check in the mail. There is absolutely no contact required. I hope everything works out for you!
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