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writes: Hi All,I have a gf who has a long sexual past. This does not bother me, except for 1 aspect... She keeps seeing them at social functions because they are either related to her friends or are friends with them. (She comes from a small town where they all know each other).I don't think that I'm jealous because I don't fear her rekindling her relationship with them but it makes me sick to imagine another man with my girl. I asked her to never see them but due to their proximity with her friends this is difficult to do and she just screams "the past is in the past" line to me.One of the major reasons why I have a problem with 2 of them in particular is that Bloke No.1 is a sleaze bag and I hate the thought of her lowering herself to those standards (I'm no prized pig but this bloke is scum) and Bloke No.2 is someone she had a one night stand with, while she was married to her husband!! So that makes me repulsed by her as well because I'm not a cheater and think less of those people who are.Basically, what the hell do I do? Everyone says I'm the one with the problem it just doesn't fit right with me... Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, female reader. But I am having trouble with the "the past is in the past" and the "she loves you, you love her" response that seems to run off the toungue of my girl, all her friends and it seems from many other women.
Sadly, at this point and time that is simply not enough, this sounds like a male thing to say but I have made some significant sacrifices for her (biggest of which is taking on her 3 year old son) and for the sake of my sanity I just want her to have no contact with these people. It ruins me when we go to a social function and I don't want to touch her or even look at her when I have spent the night looking over at the man she cheated on her husband with.
Thank you for your reply but sadly I still need more feedback, suggestions, answers...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006): EVERY GIRL AND EVERY GUY HAS A PAST SO AS LONG AS YOU LOVE HER AND SHE LOVES YOU AND NOTHING BECOMES OF THESE LITTLE RUN INS JUST MOVE FORWARD AVOID THEM WHEN YOU CAN AND FIGHT THE WORLD TOGETHER ALMOST EVERYONE DESERVES HAPPINESS AND YOU ARE ONE OF THEM ALL THE BEST LUCK WITH THE FUTURE GUYS XxXxXxXx
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