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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I was with my ex for over two years. It was very unhealthy. She struggled with emotional issues, depression and anxiety. I tried everything to be her rock and stand by her side. I fought so hard just to love her and be with her. And I had never loved another person like I loved her. I didn't know it was possible. But she tore me apart on numerous occasions. She would push me away and then pull me back over and over. She would tell me she loved me then break up with me. Then tell me she loved me again. It was a seesaw. And it was hell. But I always thought if I just stood by her, she would get better and we would be okay in the end. Well about a month and a half ago, she broke up with me again and said some seriously hurtful things about how I need to move on and leave her alone etc. So I finally did. I gave her exactly what she had always asked for. And I didn't look back. That's when I accidentally met this new woman. I didn't plan on it. It just happened. There was an instant attraction and we hit it off. I wasn't over my ex, but I really did like this woman. We wound up sleeping together and the sex is unbelievable. Phenominal.I enjoy being with her and talking to her. So then my ex comes back. She's now begging me to forgive her and let us work on our relationship. She's started doing and saying all the things I wanted and needed her to say when we were together but she never did. She was too self absorbed in herself to notice I was completely neglected. But now that she's finally doing all of these things, it feels too late. I wanted them then. Why does she have to do it now? Why couldn't she have just treated me right while we were together and I offered her the world. It almost makes me angry, even though I know I still love her so much. What do I do? I don't want to give up getting to know this new woman just to find out my ex is still full of it. But I also loved her so much I feel I owe it to myself to see. I'm so confused!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2014): You state that she had anxiety and depression, she had that for a reason. Your ex sounds like they have dealt with a lot emotionally in thier life. So they won't be someone that easily gives their love away, they cant handle getting hurt. It sounds like she has gotten over a mile stone and learnt from the love she was receiving from you. She has just opened her heart and sole to you after all this time, so don't let your impatience's get in the way of the love that was worth waiting for. You earned it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2014): Do you want to go in complete circles with you ex? . Then get off it and continue the mature relationship you have with the current girlfriend. No more confusions necessary.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2014): I agree with the others. She's telling you what you want to hear and it's a little too late.Cut contact with her and focus on the new.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2014): Well, does your ex know that you have started dating a new woman? If she does, it's quite likely she's saying all those things just to make you break up with her. You should also consider the possibility that she might be saying all those nice things just because she knows you want to hear them.
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reader, mittsu2508  +, writes (9 November 2014):
I think you gave her your all and its time to move on. If you go back you might regret it since like you said that the relationship with her is like a see-saw or an emotional rollercoaster too many ups and downs. Although this might be painful for her and yourself you must cut her off completely. Just tell her you have moved on and let her go. you must not feel guilty at all because you loved her but your love could not be returned. This could also be an important lesson for her, one she needs, that she can lose out on a loving man if she does not get her act together. You found a new love dear, its a new chapter for you, a new beginning dont throw it away for something you know will bring you confusion and pain.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 November 2014):
 I could only emotionally support a partner as long as he doesn't break up with me. Your ex is lonely and has no one to share her misery and all that melodrama. You should enjoy this new girlfriend and never look back. Don't even bother replying to your ex you have someone new. Just ignore and never pick up messages again.
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