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writes:hahaha...this is so interesting and hurting at the same time..if you av been following my stories then i dont av to repeat..i broke up with my girlfriend less than two weeks ago..i have kept the no contact rule for a while until i saw she had unblocked and blockd my facebook account twice of which i sent a request of friendship...well, she took a fare share of hours until she made sure that she had started a gud flirtatious conversation with a guy she had added 3 weeks ago. i sent her a thnx text 4 acceptin the request atlast, she didnt reply(hehehe)....however, their flattering has persisted on the 2nd day now and they seem to share more than just talk, i feel like he is taking advantage though its like the chick who is kind of initiating most of the conversations, joking, playing and laughing, completely creating a perfect picture...i think they are now going overboard, we had broken up on various disagreements which cn be fixed...how do i counter this reverse psychology, she is very clever and i dont want to loose her because of a silly move..HOW DO I COUNTER THIS ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2011): That's messed up what happened to anonymous female.man don't do that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): ~ADVERSE CONSEQUENCES~An ex used the following tactic on me which is also advised under this question: "....Want to pull a 'fast one?' Make up a profile as somebody else and start talking to her. No 'romance' or trying to pick her up; just friendly. Use your creativity here and get her to confide in you a little. Tell her about a situation similar to yours but not too close - you don't want her to get suspicious - and see what she thinks of it...."Initially, I was clueless that the perpetrator was my ex, until I noticed with subsequent messages from my ex which began leading me to feel as if I were speaking to myself, as much of the content presented in my ex's messages were replica of numerous attributes and experiences existent and lived by me of which I shared only with my ex.Once again, hurt by my ex's infamous deceit toward myself, I immediately deleted my profile, sent my ex a personal email with the name of my ex's faux profile name in the 'regarding' email field along with a brief message stating, "Stop stalking me, X."It hurts.~Honesty Repairs Breached Trust-Further Deceit Validates Lack Thereof~It's not kind to dangle with a person's trust, compassion, and sincerity in persons.Please never dress yourself as Puppeteer, as it serves only to further secure the caring puppets distance far way from you.~Relentless Deception...It wounds, scars and hurts~
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reader, joe culls +, writes (10 January 2011):
joe culls is verified as being by the original poster of the question you are very correct and its like you knew what i had done before going to bed...thank you very much, i will give her time, keep no contact rule and see where it will get us..thank alot..i will get back with some news whatever it will be
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reader, cat lady  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 Greetings and peace be with you, Joe Culls,
You should eat rich spicy food earlier in the day and not right before you go to bed. Cheese at night is another one that causes confused dreams in some people; I don't know why but your doctor might have some insights.
I am not kidding you. When you sleep, your mind processes data and files it, just like a computer, and anything that formed as a thought in your mind when you were too busy to deal with it shows up in your dreams. That process gets a little disjointed if you've something in your stomach that overstimulates your digestion.
But be careful. Thoughts have power! Do you want to 'conjure' yourself right out of this relationship with incantations of woe? Decidedly not! Think of what you want, not what you don't want. Trust your heart and your instincts to show you what is best for you. They will; believe that.
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reader, joe culls +, writes (10 January 2011):
joe culls is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhello, am very fine with the right attitude...thank you for your help..i will do as you have suggested but again, this situation is so confusing, i know i love her but why did i dream that she is confessing infidelity?, and that she is saying she wants to be with that other guy..she has always explain to me everything..i dont really understand
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reader, cat lady +, writes (9 January 2011):
How are you doing? Yes, I remember you. Want to pull a 'fast one?' Make up a profile as somebody else and start talking to her. No 'romance' or trying to pick her up; just friendly. Use your creativity here and get her to confide in you a little. Tell her about a situation similar to yours but not too close - you don't want her to get suspicious - and see what she thinks of it.
Recommended reading for you: The Perfumed Garden of the Shaykh Nefzawi translated by Sir Richard Francis Burton in 1886
There are stories in there with very similar elements and I know you'll find them useful and amusing. The old classics can be a true joy at times like this.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 Just ignore it. She's clearly doing it to get a reaction out of you. I'm in a similar situation. My ex has a gf now, and she constantly comments on his statuses, posts on his wall etc on facebook with stuff trying to get a reaction out of me. I'm not giving her the satisfaction that it kinda gets to me, and i tend to laugh at what she puts, and he doesn't even acknowledge it either. I've been told by friends that he rarely posts on her profile, which makes me laugh.
Ignore it, and she will see that there's no reaction from you and she'll get bored of trying lol. Keep going with the no contact rule aswell and try not to go on her profile as much. Find other ways to keep busy.
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