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*tars20
writes:Hello,I am stressed as hell. My ex is coming back into the scene after four months of absense. After offending me and humiliating me with his fling. He is saying that "now" he was wants to see his son. He wants to paas by my home to see his son. I am full of anger, I don't know how I would react when I see him coming in like nothing. What can I do with this rage? What should I say to get this uncomfortable feeling out of my chest?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Stars20...it sounds like this man did a number on you. He emotionally and psychologically abused you and you are still being affected by it. I have heard that this type of abuse is almost worse than physical because of the long-term damage it does. You need to find help! He is using the system to re-victimze you and that is not okay. Is there a battered women's shelter in your area? They can help you with what you are going through. You don't have to go and stay there...a lot of times they have programs (groups and individual counselling) that they can offer to you while you stay in the community. You will get support, not only from the staff but from other women who are experiencing similiar situations. All the best.
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reader, Stars20 +, writes (18 April 2009):
Stars20 is verified as being by the original poster of the question my mother begged me not to kill myself. But what do I do with this pain I have inside? What do i with this anguish, anger, with this never ending torture which I am forced to live in because there is no way out, because that son of a bitch will be in the scene for obvious reasons, because he gives up, disappears then comes back like nothing? It's been four years of this torture and my life does not move from this pyre i'm in. He emotionally abused me, he psychologically abused me, I'm in a prison, manipulated by this evil creature, he hates my gutts.
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reader, Stars20 +, writes (18 April 2009):
Stars20 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is undeserving! Yes I know he is the father and has rights but after I took care of my child on my own, went through turbulances, he passed the child on and washed his hands from EVERYTHING, now he wants to show up. He already have a court order which he took me to court and demanded rights, even to have me absent from my own home while my mother had to stay as he saw his son for hours. He is an psycho evil person. Passive but evil. I am afraid that he would come back to torture me again, using authorities, taking the boy away, come on! with what kind of caring heart when he never had one for his child?! He has the situation in control, he doesn't care but he'll do it for the hell of it, just to create chaos in my mind. One time he stated "I know how she gets when I do this", now what can I do? Nothing, because he can get the cops against me. That's when I say that he uses many situations to bother me when in fact he does not care. I want to commit suicide. I am scared. I know I'll miss my baby soooo much you guys can't even imagine but I can't go through this anymore. I can't go on having a demond disturbing me, using my child to disturb me. does anyone understand? I am soooo scared I am screaming for help I don't want to go through this anymore, I have no one , the authorities will all go against me if I complain or seek for help, because he is not physically assaulting me.
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