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*ndy00
writes:After breaking up three weeks ago, I'm already sick of being the "ex".Me and my ex are at university together, and since we broke up things are completely different. I assumed things would change, but I can't understand why it seems to have changed in such a dramatic way. Before and during our relationship we had no problem talking and laughing with eachother, but these days she doesn't seem to want to even look at me, and nothing I say even seems to get a giggle from her.Our break up was completely mutual. We weren't compatible with eachother, and this was something that we both agreed with. (For the record, she suggested the break up before me). Since this is the case, why is she acting so strangely? We have no reason to be angry or bitter with eachother.I know that the advice I'm going to receive will be that I should talk to her, but how do I go about doing this? What can I say to her? I don't want to make things worse.
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reader, Jager +, writes (27 January 2009):
hey. you dont need to talk to her about this. It looks like your the one who is still hung up on this girl. If it was mutual then let her go. You can expect to go from a relationship do friends in a day or even a week it takes weeks even months to do this. Give her time you may even find you no longer are able to be friends but if you give her the space she needs now then you may have the chance of saving what little left you have with here ie the friendship
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): Andy, she is trying to "get over you" even though it was her idea first it was your idea to remain friends....she may not be ready for that, it is painful to break up with someone for what ever reason....so give her some time and let her contact you first...if you run into her be pleasant and smile just as you are doing, but don't bother her with calls, emails and texts and asking her out to do things with you...it is too soon.
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