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writes:My ex husband is backing out of his responsibilities . When we decided to let our girls get a dog he agreed to take on 50 percent of the care. That pretty much means when he has the girls their dog goes with them. After five yrs he has decided he doesn't want to do it anymore and is refusing to take the dog. I cannot have this dog full time because my schedule does not allow it so I am forced to find him a new home. My ex says Iam being selfish because I am not just gonna suck it up and keep the dog full time. I was wondering how others would go about this situation? He is trying to make me look like the bad guy to our girls.
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reader, crawldaddy +, writes (1 July 2014):
What if he just changed his mind about having a dog around or maybe he never liked dogs in the first place, and did the best he could for as long as he could. Don't play the blame game work it out.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 July 2014):
 Well, I think the planned was flawed from the beginning. What IF something happened to one of you? Or let's say your ex had to move across country and the kids could only see him after a plane ride?
I mean it was an unrealistic plan IMHO.
If you have to rehome toe dog SUCK it up and BE the adult making THAT ADULT decision. What is wrong with that? HE can AS EASILY SUCK it up and keep the dog, can't he?
OR you can find a doggy daycare and keep the dog. You can CRATE the dog and keep it (HE can do all this too, can he not?)
Be he CHOOSES to not take any responsibility so YOU will have to. There are TWO adults here who made a BAD DEAL and now ONE of you will have to STEP up and find a solution.
As it has turned out, YOU are THAT adult.
YOU girls might not like it, but THAT is part of being a GROWN up. Shit happened and HOW you deal with it DETERMINES the outcome. Not who you can put the blame on.
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