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writes:Dated a girl for 4 months. Was really good until the last month when things went south. She wanted to not be tied down at this point in her life (she's a freshman in college I'm a junior in college). I wanted something a little more serious. So we went our seperate ways with her breaking up with me. So for the next two months I did not see her or contact her except for an occasional run in at school. Then all of a sudden she starts texting me a week into this quarter. First it was she just wanted to meet for coffee. Then it went to ice cream. And now she wants to hang out for a whole night. I'm kind of confused. What does this mean?
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reader, luvmakescrazy  +, writes (7 January 2010):
@ below comments and the creator of this comment.love is not a joke that u easily can forget som1 n u used to share everything in d past and rid of the person and replace some1 else. she text u bcos obviously she feels for u deep inside her. u have no idea wat it so feels to be left alone when when he leaves you. after we broke up i have sent txt to my ex too even tho i cudnt even control my self to stay down bcos i was missing him like hell. its not abt playing games, its all abt the feelings shes feeling inside for u! these feelings are precious bcos u wont get same strong feelings from every1! texting means shes yearning for u to come bak!! im a girl and i understand wat it feels inside when a guy leaves u in a middle of emotional ocean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just got done on my little outing with my ex girlfriend. She took me out to dinner and ice cream. At the beginning she was real talkative and flirty. At first I was hesitant but as night progressed I began to flirt back. I asked if she wanted to watch a movie at my place and she said yes. Came back to my place and we flirted a little bit more while watching the movie but I didn't want to push anything further. Thought she might make a move but she never did. So I flirted with her a little bit more but nothing happened. At end we said good byes and she said she misses hanging out with me. Does this mean she wants to be friends or she wants to get back together? She did say that her roommates always had their boyfriends over and that she was bored a lot. I was hoping tpo get some answers tonight but didn't get any. What is going on here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): Girls are funny creatures. They always want to run the table when it comes to emotions and break up decisions. She might of not been so into you at first but maybe now that she saw some other guys likes you even more then before. Just be careful, see what she REALLY wants and go from there. Don't be her positive reinforcement though that she can get you back whenever she wants. Let her chase you a bit.
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (18 April 2009):
Maybe it was the original ' you dont know what you got till its gone' or maybe she just realised that you could share the same dream and she wants you in her future, she could be playing games and for you not to get hurt you need to seek the truth before you fall too deep.
Whatever her motives, you need to decide what you do next and start living like she used to, thinking of whats best for you. You obviously liked her and wanted a future but surely things change in time? your feelings wont but your mind will of. Make sure you remain in control, if you want something out of this then you need answers to a lot of questions, you need her honesty and her full heart if she wants something it cannot be like last time.
Talk to her before you do anything else.
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