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*isha21
writes:well me and my ex has been broken up for 5months now we where together 3yrs and we brokeup and three days klater he had a new girlfriend lately we have been having sex about twice aweek he calls every three or four days but now he hasnt called in aweek i really want him back i thought by him goin with her so soon he'd relize he missed me but seems like he has moved on but why so sooni know he loves her because he tells me she is so sweet and she is pretty why did he do this to me is hurts so bad everybody says i should have been moved on but its hard when i know i love him he has cheated on me so mant times i just thought maybe he needed something new and was comin back am i settling for less
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (23 August 2008):
 Oh sweetheart value yourself SO much more than what you have been.
Your ex is a USER and always will be. How dare he expect sex after breaking up with you and continually tell you how great the new girlfriend is, and he was getting sex twice a week, talk about get your cake and eat it.
He has now done you the favour but not getting in touch, if he does don't let him get anywhere near you.
I would not trust him an inch and as you say he has cheated on you so many times, I wouldn't expect someone like him to take precautions when having sex with someone and so I would make sure you get yourself tested as he could easily be infecting a few people right now. Don't be a victim sweetheart.
I know you cannot switch off feelings and that is the hard part but just value yourself so much more.
You are hurt and depressed after having a relationship for 3 years and then him calling in for sex whenever he wants it. Most definitely DO NOT let it happen again EVER.
Start to think about what you want out of life, a loyal and trustworthy bf for a start would be good. Surround yourself with your friends and family and start living again.
You are still very young and you have your whole life ahead of you, don't settle for second best or worse with this guy. You are worth 10 of him and it is about time you realised that.
He has controlled your head for far too long and you are taking the crumbs off the table by spending sort periods of time with him and allowing him to USE you for sex. You don't need to do this.
Tell him NO MORE if he contacts you again as you will never get over him if you just let him know that you are easy and readily available for him at the drop of a hat. He is vicious and cruel to have sex and then say how great the new gf is. Once a cheater always a cheater I'm afraid, leopards do not change their spots.
He is already cheating on this wonderful gf by coming back to you, don't let it continue.
There is a guy out there who would put you first and not need to sleep around with others behind your back.
Look at yourself in the mirror and remind yourself every day how wonderful and gorgeous you are and that enough is enough, you could have any man you want but NOT him. You need to be put first in a guy's life and not be picked up and dropped whenever he feels like it.
Get yourself out and about and keep yourself active, whether that is going to the gym or spending time with friends, whatever but do not sit and dwell and waste your thoughts on someone who really doesn't deserve you. You are TOO GOOD for him.
Do get yourself checked medically though, I am not trying to worry you but you just don't know where he has been. He is an alley cat and so just protect yourself.
Don't rush into a new relationship as you need to get over your ex but don't stop living either. You need to believe in yourself again and not have your head filled with his lies anymore, you can't trust anything this guy says to you as it is a complete pack of lies that spills from his mouth.
If it was so wonderful with the new gf why cheat on her eh?
Don't be the consolation prize, be the winner!!
YOU DON'T NEED HIM, you need someone who is so much better than him.
Maybe suggest a break with friends if you can afford it or a night out. Don't go out looking for a new guy just enjoy a dance and leave it at that, you are still too raw to let anyone close right now but in time things will start to look so much better believe me.
Here anytime as we all are OK.
BFN
Country Woman
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