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writes:This is probably going to be long so sorry :)Well I was friends with my ex before we started dating. He used to skate alot, so I'd hang with his friends and see him skate and just generally hang out. We'd chat on cam on msn and he'd tell me about girls he liked and stuff. It made us close and I enjoyed spending time with him and talking to him. After just over a year,he asked me to be his girlfriend. After thinking about it for abit I said yes (only had to think about it because if it ended badly I didn't want to lose my best friend). We was happy together, we'd go out and enjoy spending time together, he wouldn't be embarassed about kissing me in fornt of his friends, if I went to a party he'd come and pick me up and make sure I got home safe. I can list a thousand good things that I loved about him which made me feel special.There was only one issue really that got us arguing and that was trust. He didn't like me seeing my other lad mates and I didn't like him spending loads of times with girls. We spoke about it and understand where each was coming through, however one of us would still get jealous if the other went out. But we got through everything. If we had a argument he'd ring me and we'd talk things through but his mum would always come in his room and tell him to get off the phone from me, and say that I wasn't worth his time. It made me feel really awkward and if I rang she'd be really blunt on the phone and shout him down and say "SHE'S" on the phone. We had a row the night before I was going on holiday and told him I didn't think we was working. But rang him at the airport and told him how sorry I was and that I wanted to make things work. He agreed and wished me a nice holiday and said he'd meet me when I got back. We text each other a few times just to let each other know we were thinking about them. But when I got back he didn't ring or anything, so I rang him and he rejected it and text me saying he was too busy to talk to me. Turns out he had some other girl round his house which he had made out with. I found it hard to trust him after this and so he went out and kept doing it. I ended it saying I didn't want to get hurt any more.5 months down the line and we have spoken about how stupid it was and made friends. I still have feelings for him and he does me, and he's asked me to e his girlfriend again and meet his family but I don't want to because of the what they are like. Am I out of order?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): I didn't split up with him because I wanted to meet someone on holiday. I can see where your coming from but that never even crossed my mind. I did it because I was angry (which I know I shouldn't have done) and if that was the case, I wouldn't ring up apologising and asking for him back. And if it was the cause of it all, when I had come back and we was alright together, why would he carry on doing it behind my back?
I've decided I'm going to take things slow and just stay mates with him for now. Its for the best :)
Thank you for the advice x
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reader, :)31215 +, writes (29 November 2010):
 You don't want to get back together with him because of his family?? not because he cheated on you?? Odd...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): It's cool meet his family. in my opinion they dont have to like you, they're not dating you and your not dating them. simple.
But you and your boyfriend may still need talk about it, how do you know he wont run away wuth other girls? did you cheat on him on holiday? (whether you did or not, I think deep inside he will always think you did, despite what you say, and he tells you.) I can't imagine how scared i would feel if my girlfriend broke up with me and the next day she was going away.. it kinda makes sense why he went on the rebound you reckon?
Dont want to be blunt but.. I kinda feel as if you breaking up with him cause of all this happening..
Jay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): He's been off with other girls. It's over. You can't fix it after that. Find yaself a nice lad!
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