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writes:I lost my virginity to a guy i was dating nearly two years ago..he ended things quite soon after because he got back with his ex....so i never really got over him but carried on with things as normal.Completly out of the blue i got an email from him in july..asking how i was ect and apologised for how he acted.We emailed and txted for a month when i eventually asked what he wanted from this....he sent back an email reveling that he had a girlfriend who at the time was 7 months pregant with his baby..but he said they had a rocky relationship and didnt think it would last long after she gave birth. We spoke on the phone for the first time 2 weeks ago and have called or txted each other everyday since.We meet up yesterday..and straight away all the feelings i had previously had came rushing back....We went back to his and after sitting around talking and messing around for a while lay on the bed to watch a film....we ended up kissing and more.I stopped at one point and said that i coudnt go any futher because of his girlfriend. He said that we had already crossed the mark, but we stopped, he then said he needed to know that if he was going to leave his girlfriend he needed to know i could commit to a relationship....we then stoped and spoke and he said he felt really awkward and embrassed for almost begging....so we agreed to call it a day.We held hands in the car on the way home and kissed goodbye.I couldnt help later on feeling really guilty about the situation 1. Because he has a pregant girlfriend 2. Because i almost felt like i was leading him on.PLease help me i still have really strong feelings for him but dont know what to do?
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reader, cd206 +, writes (31 October 2007):
 I was in a similar situation (still am in a way) a while back. My first boyfriend got back in touch after a few years and said he'd like to meet. When we did meet the spark was definitely there but he also owned up to being engaged. I wouldn't act on our attraction because I couldn't get his fiancee out of my head no matter how much I wanted him. The thing is, it comes down to conscience. Can you live with yourself if you break his girlfriend and baby's hearts? If you can then go for it but make sure you're aware of the consequences. I feel a bit patronising answering this question, knowing that it's not actually this simple at all, but sometimes you just have to put someone you might not even know first just because deep down you know it's the right thing. Hope this helps.
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