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writes: Hi just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to cope when an ex I'm still in love with moves on? We see each other every week as we have a child and last week he informed me that he has a new gf. I'm heartbroken and dreading seeing them together as I still really love him.
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (13 June 2006):
 dear reader it is so hard to stop loving someone you have a child with even if you want to. i know you don't want to hear it and you probably have so many times but you really need t move on and admit to yourself things eren't the same anymore you can expect him to stay single foe the rest of his life and he probably don't want that for you either.
so keep strong swollow your pride and wish them luck but please try to move on if you don't how are you expected to find hapiness of your own
all the best to you xxx
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (13 June 2006):
 Give yourself a little time to get over him. Then take up new challenges, and new focus's. hes moved on which means you are going to have to too. He has found someone else, and so will you. Give yourself time to get over him, but the best way is to out there and meet new people. We all deal with things differently and on a different timescale. You have to in the end accept that you two are not to be. Put your foucus into something else, a new interest, and gradually your feelings will fade. It wont be overnight, but it will become more managable. Find yourself, find what makes you you and then be open to finding somebody new!
Get out there and enjoy life, we dont need a man to do that! We get one shot! Grab it!!
Take care
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (13 June 2006):
 Honey, all you can do is to put your energy into other relationships. You are mourning the end of a relationship and there is nothing to do except go through this process. It does get better, and one day you may get to a place where you can once again see the endless possibilities of the future.
I went through this process years ago and I eventually came out of it seeing those endless possibilities. I now am in a great marriage and in a place in life I could not imagine when I was getting over that failed relationship. It can happen to you as well if you persevere. Good luck and take care.
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reader, Smiler +, writes (13 June 2006):
 Hey Sweetie
firstly i'm sorry to hear your so sad :o(,its a painful place your at right now; everyone at one time in their life has been in a similar place that your at its not nice.... but i will try my best to help you through this ok.... well babe they say time is a great healer and helps you get over ex partners but if your anything like me i shuddered just hearing or saying the word ex cause i so much wanted him back..and if my ex had moved on and got a new partner it would of killed me to, particularly as you have to see him at the weekends thats hard on you babe..... but hey i'm hear to tell you from experience that it does get better if you are strong and confident babe you can get through this and see the light at the end of the tunnel.... i know you can't see that light right now but trust me its there. i can understand why you hurt like you do cause you obviously loved him deeply, i think the fact that he has moved on must drive you inside honey to forget him and try to move on also, try and block him and all those painful feelings out cause it will be less painful that way, rather than thinking what you can't have any longer,concentrate on your daughter and keep going out with your mates and having fun... then i think you'll on the right tracks to getting over him... as for hurting part me personally i would find something to do in my spare time that kept me busy so i did'nt have time to sit around thinking about him and wanting him.. the painful side of this will take time to heal, don't jump straight in with someone new you'll just be on the rebound babe.... take time to heal go out with your mates have some fun as the saying goes laughter is the best medicine, try and enjoy life so you don't constantly find yourself thinking of him then before you know it you'll be standing in that light at the end of that tunnel rather than just looking for it ok babe.
i hope my advise helped you a little... good luck babe. if you ever need someone to talk to or just more advise don't hesitate to email me ok....would love to hear from you again..
You Take Care Sweetie Ok X
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