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anonymous
writes:My ex is a real piece of work. He never wanted our son and has done everything he can to avoid paying child support. He has even gone as far as saying that he doesn't feel he should pay child support as I already claim Child Benefit and Tax Credits. He now pays me just £30.00 per month.I can't claim from the CSA as my ex claims a widowed parents allowance and this means he will only have to pay £5.00 per week. His other children are 16 and 13.I have recently discovered that his new girlfriend has moved in with him and I suspect that he has not declared this as it will mean him losing his tax credits and the widowed parents allowance. I suspect this because when we were looking into living together he suggested that we keep it quiet too so we could both claim.I struggle to get by each month even though I work while he sits there in a £200,000 house, raking in every benefit he can get on top of his earnings plus he now has her contributing to his household. He's also sitting on a lot of money from the sale of his old house as this is in a trust so it can't be considered as income.I'm thinking of reporting him for benefit fraud as this will mean he will loose his widowed parents allowance thus allowing me to claim CSA. I have also been told I can also make a claim for the money he has in the trust. I'm really in two minds about this, it's not about revenge but about getting what my son is entitled to.Should I report him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): I'm the original sender just answering a question about the widowed parent entitlement. Before we got together he was married and his wife died.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (1 February 2008):
 Hi,
I know loads of people that are doing this sort of thing and it makes my blood boil.
How do they get away with it? Although you are luckier than me, my ex never paid a penny to me in 14 years. I only ever claimed working family tax credit, because I had a low paid job at the time. But I still got off my arse and worked. The trouble with this counrty is, they pay more to you for sitting on your arse, than the minimum wage.
Also! The CSA never chase the right people, and these men (sometimes women) are getting away with leaving children behind and then basically letting others pay for them. (Why should we have to) it's there kids.
My father told me to never squel on anyone, no matter what. But I am sick and tired of working my guts out, and paying tax, for others who are to bone idol to bloody work.
Shop him love! he deserves it. I only wish I had done it to my Ex husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): and another thing - call the Benefit Enquiry Line on 0800 88 22 00 to check that you're getting all the benefits that you're entitled to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): I quite wonder why he's entitled to Widowed Parents Allowance. You're plainly not dead, and unless he married someone else who has since died, I don't see how he could be entitled to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): You almost took the words out of my mouth. Call the National Benefit Fraud Hotline on 0800 85 44 40. You don't have to give any of your details and it's completely confidential. Gather all the evidence you can, even if it's just your suspicion and tell them all you know. You owe it to the rest of the honest taxpayers in the country.
Even if he ends up paying you nothing, I'm sure you could still get by without his 7 quid a week. It'll cost him a lot more than that when he has to pay back what he's fraudulently claimed. They'll simply either reduce or stop his benefits until it's paid back.
Phil
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reader, AskEve +, writes (1 February 2008):
 Unfortunately he can't be forced to pay CSA money to you (at least that's the case in Scotland). I agree with Annalisa, go to the Citizens Advice Bureau and see what they say. If you don't get any satisfaction from them and you know for a fact that he's claiming these benefits then yep, report him! I would! You might not get your money but you'll get satisfaction knowing you've knocked him off his pedestal. Good luck!
Eve
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