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*arla3683
writes:hi well the deal is: iv been split from my bf of 7years 4 3years and i still have strong feelings for him(maybe the fact i have a 5y/o to him)i just carnt seem to stop thinking about him. ma freinds keep telling me to move on they even take me out but if i connect wid other blokes i still think of him why cant i get over him?he is married now as been 4 awhile and its not as if he was good to me when we was together as had played away wid other girls and had more children whilest he was with me he basidly treated me like crap but yet again i cant get over him i havnt seen for 3 years he dosnt come to see his son or support him.what can i do to get him out of ma head?
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reader, accused  +, writes (5 December 2006):
 In my opion I think that you should put the well being of your child first and foremost. Then you need to sit down and ask yourself what is it about this man that DIDN"T treat you good when you two were together that keeps you hanging on. You always want what you can't have... but be careful what you wish for.... GOOD LUCK.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): Go to court and get an order to MAKE him pay child support! INSIST that he be made to do so. This is not something he has a choice about!! He fathered a child, and whether he sees you or the 5-year old or not, whether he cares or does not care, whether he's married or not (and if married he CERTAINLY should have no further dealings with you EXCEPT visitation rights for the child, IF he wanted them).
If it gets ugly - then SO BE IT. LET it get ugly!
You have already spent three years pining for him; don't waste another minute! - he is not worth the dirt under your feet!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): Come on girl, get a grip. What was good about him?? You haven't described anything worth remembering! He treat you like crap, he cheated on you and he has a son which he doesn't support or even see!! Put him out of your mind right now. We all have a little self destruct button in our heads which we press from time to time, yours needs to be switched off. Please do try to get this person out of your head before he reeks any more havoc. Get out there with your family and friends over the festive season and maybe you will meet someone who you so rightly deserve. Take care cos you deserve better.
best wishes
xx
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