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male
age
30-35,
*ust some bloke
writes:SOOOOOO here's the thing. Roughly 6 months ago my gf and I broke up. we had been together for 3 years and best friends for years before. We had just been fighting for a few months because the struggles of life (bills school etc) had gotten to us. During this time we had both been chatting with other friends of ours. Well I ended up hooking up with my friend and in response she did too. Well my thing ended. and her new bf lived 2 hours away and then moved to another state. So during this time the horrible people that we are, hooked up every now and again and be all flirty. Well this guy asked her to marry her( their entire relationship had been skype) and she said yes cause she in a hurry and marry blah blah blah. well last night , he was snooping through her facebook and found our messages about our hookups and threatened to dump her. Now im not saying im a good person or anything . What we did was wrong. But she claims she loves him but i mean if she really did why would we still do what we do. I still love her to death . Should i say something and try to convince her not do to this and risk never talking to her again. or let her do as he says and stop talking to me.
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reader, MSA +, writes (5 January 2015):
 Cutting ties, walking away from a relationship whether it be friendship or love is never easy.
He banned her, but it was her choice to accept his ban.
So just suck it up like a man, accept her decision, and move on.
It will only get easier day by day.
Good luck!
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reader, Just some bloke +, writes (4 January 2015):
Just some bloke is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell that failed . Her new boy banned her from talking to me . She's my best friend before anything so I don't know how well this is going to go with me
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (4 January 2015):
 Tell her how you feel about her. If she reciprocates then great; if not then you just have to back out and allow her to do whatever she wants. And stop messing around with her because it'll only end in heartbreak for you.
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female
reader, Brokenv  +, writes (4 January 2015):
You have to tell her that you love her. You will regret it for the rest of your life if you don't. If she walks away from you than you know it was not meant to be.
She is too young to be getting married anyone. Her decision to of having a sexual relationship with you while still being with new bf tells me she lacks the maturity to get married.
Good Luck!
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2015): honestly its her choice to make.. all you can do is actually give her a choice.. if you really love her and you think she is simply jumping into the other relationship (which btw i think she is) you have to give her a reason to stay.. to not go in that direction. Now how you give her that option is up to you.. i am not saying propose marriage.. you shouldnt marry till you are ready.. but you do know you will have to ask her to stay.. and of course that means being responsible for it
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female
reader, MSA +, writes (4 January 2015):
My suggestion would be to tell her you love her, want to be with her again. Then let her make the decision. You should not comment on what you think of her new beau, or whether she should get married or not. Just tell her how you feel about her and leave it at that.
If she decides to reconcile with you, then you both put the past completely behind you and start fresh. If she decides to be with her new beau, then let her go, knowing it's her choice and it will make her happy.
Best of luck!
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