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writes:I really need help with this situation and it would mean a lot if I can get as many responses as I can, thank you.So me and my ex been broken up for about a half a year, we broke up once which was for 4 months and then we got back together but I was immature and resented many things. So now that we've been broken up again (second time) we've been hanging out at least once a week but she has a boyfriend of 3 months (long distance). The story is that after we broke up a week later she hooked up with this guy and started dating him. By the way we went out for 3 and half years. So now after 3 months of hanging out we told each other that we still have feelings for each other and would date if she wasn't dating, but recently 4 days ago I told her "what are we" we talked and all she said she would give us a shot but is scared of getting hurt again, I told her many times I will never do that again. I have such an amazing time with her and I've been noticing the things we had and similarities that made us fall for each other. So at the end of the night I decided to cut ties and tell her we shouldn't see or talk to each other anymore, she cried when I left..I never understood our relationship, everytime we fought or broke up, we ended up bumping into each other and dating again. I just need to know will she ever come back? What's the deal with the boyfriend? she tells me she's been lying to him that we've haven't been hanging out, are they eventually going to break up? Can someone please help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012): "What's the deal with the boyfriend?" She has one and she's cheating on him with you.
"she tells me she's been lying to him that we've haven't been hanging out . . ."
She admits lying about you to boyfriend she's cheating on with you.
You don't know what she's telling him about you, lying to him about you, telling him what she's lying about to you, lying to him about what she's telling you.
What you do know is she's cheating on her present boyfriend
while telling the other guy she's lying to her boyfriend about cheating on him with the other guy and that other guy is you. You know about him and you know he doesn't know about you, assuming she's telling you the truth about the lies she's telling him about you and not lying to him about the lies she's telling him about you. Get the picture? Neither of you know what the other knows, believes, has been told or lied about the other.
All you can count on is at some point he'll bust her, she'll throw you under the bus to save her lying ass, you'll suddenly be confronted with a enraged jealous vengeful boyfriend and you can be certain whatever story she made up on the spot will remotely resemble anything she told or lied or told about lying or lied about telling to you.
"I've been noticing the things we had and similarities that made us fall for each other."
Would you risk her physical safety by playing her off the girlfriend you're cheating on with her by lying to gf you're cheating on that you're not cheating?
Would you tell her you're lying to gf being cheating on that you're not cheating?
Would she be dumb enough to not grasp the gravity of the situation, you admit lying to gf you are cheating on that you're not cheating, and she responds to your callouness and heartlessness and disrespect for you as a person and total disregard for your life and utter contempt for you as a human being by blankly wondering if they're ever going to break up?
"are they eventually going to break up?"
No "official" break up but they may be apart for a few years if bf goes off to prison after he comes after you, and she may come around after your own long-term recovery from severe injuries he inflicted, but only if you promise not to hurt her.
At least she had the decency to tell you she lied to boyfriend about cheating on him with you, too bad next chump boyfriend she cheats on won't know she's really cheating with previous ex because she's really lying to him about not cheating. Imagine the dumbass waiting in line for her. Oh, that would be you.
Get your head out of the sand, she'll throw you under the bus and send an enraged violent psycho stranger after you without warning or clue to cover her cheating lying ass, whether or not she cries at your funeral.
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reader, Emily20  +, writes (28 January 2012):
 To be truthful,you have to decide on what you want,meeting her again,does not mean you are meant for each other,tell me something,for how long will you continue to fight breakup,and thats what you should answere,if you guys truely love each other you wont make it the habite of fighting and breaking up,love is all about endurance,perseverance,etc,you have to sit down and think,ask yourself these question,is she really the one for me,is these love or lust,have i try a new relationship and its not working,is the problem from me?when you have resolve these food for thought,then make the right step.goodluck
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