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writes: well, long story short me an my girlfriend broke up like 2 or 3 weeks ago. we had been dating for like 2 weeks away from a year. she borke up with me, and then a few days later i found she had lied, gone to a dance and slowdanced a few times with a guy, then called him everynight (while we were previously dating). i told her i didnt want anything to do with her, and went on to live my life. i have a girl i kind of like right now (but i couldnt really see my self marrying her) and she likes me too. last night my ex called, like normal, only this time she was crying very hard to me begging that she has made a giant mistake, has not done anything with anyone else, and the boy she dumped me for never even hooked up with her. she pleads she will never do that again and knows she had the world when she was with me. i told her i need to think about it. i honestly dont know what to do, because i still care for her very much, and would love to have her back, but then i think about what everyone else would think, because they were happy when we broke up, and then if we went back, theyd hate us. i just dont know what to do. please answer asap. thx...
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reader, cam  +, writes (31 December 2006):
 hey m8 i totaly understand how u feel(recent experience). figure out if you trust her, if you feel lyk you can then i suggest you try it agen. she does sound pretty lost with tha hole thing so u mite wanna tell her how ur feelin an ask for some time. this will help you decide what you want to do and it will help her get herself sorted.
dont worri about what others think this is between u an her, that simple
i hope things work out for you mate
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): I think you are both very young and to possibly too soon to be in an exclusive girlfriend/boyfriend relationship...I think it is very normal to want to date another boy or girl at this age and I think it would benefit you and your ex to keep your options open at this point.
I don't think your girlfriend really cheated on you, she went to a dance....I think she is feeling very badly that you are mad at her and she would like you to forgive her...I think you are mature enough to make a decision about what her friendship means to you without regards to what others think about it, as it is not their affair, but yours.
It would probably be nice if you could work things out so that you are on speaking terms again, but I think instead of immediatley jumping back into being a girlfriend and boyfriend situation that you try just talking, sharing and being a friend first...you both have the right to date anyone you want...it is a time when you are learning alot about yourselves and about relationships so don't put so much pressure on her to be your only girl...be nice, be a pal and see how things go....that would be my choice, but ultimately it is up to you both and how maturely you want to handle this.
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reader, xNatx +, writes (31 December 2006):
 Hi, for a start dont worry about what anyone else thinks its your life. It realy all depends on what your heart is telling you if you love her and honestly believe that she wont do it again then go for its worth a try, but if your not so sure and no you will always have a niggling feeling at the back of your mind when shes out with friends then maybe its best to move on and tell her that you dont think you could trust her again. follow your heart. hope this helps xxx
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reader, Pretty and proud  +, writes (31 December 2006):
 hey,
you need to follow your heart, she cheated on you, does that make you feel like your worthwile? does it make you feel like the best lover in the world? it wouldnt me, she also came crawling back because her new bloke didnt hook up with her. you say there is a girl who you like and she likes you, go for it, if you think she is right for you then be with her. i hope i helped you x
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