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anonymous
writes:hi i see you have had alot of questions similiar to this and i know it seems a pain to be repeating the answers but, ive fallen for someone online we have been talking for ages and i trust him i have a sense about him.and he has told me that he loves me so much it hurts.. we havent met yet we are hoping to in the next month since xmas has made us pennyless. i know some people will say alot because its the internet but he makes me so happy he brightens up my day and i think im falling for him i know i have to wait till we meet but hes afraid that we wont feel the same in person i think this is why he has been putting our meeting up off .. would like to know if anyone can give me any advice to help him with his nervouses ness and fears male help would be much appriecate i just want him to meet me . i do encourage him and try to give him confidence, but what has made me feel sad is that he loves me so much but he cant meet me is their any way i can help him to get over his fear , ( hes mostly afraid we wont work out and that it will end like his exs in a short few months ) thanks xxxxxxxxxx
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reader, cam  +, writes (31 December 2006):
 hey, i'v bin in this situation befor but i think you should just reassure him that things arnt goin 2 change. that u love the person he is an u feel that meeting is only goin 2 help the relationship. i think you'll b ok but goodluck anyway
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006): You can't really be in love with someone you've never met in person.
If you like each other that much, meeting is a risk you'll have to take - the risk being that it won't be the same when you are face to face, that is.
I don't understand why he is reluctant to meet? Is it an extremely long-distance friendship? Or, are you sure he isn't either married or living with someone? To check on the "married or not" question, ask for his home phone number and see if he's willing to give it to you.....
Specifically as to what advice I can give to encourage him to meet you, maybe try suggesting a couple of specific days and time and see if he will agree.
If not, there may come a time to "fish or cut bait" as they say.......good luck
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