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writes:I've already posted this question earlier but I'm posting it again.My ex finally contacted me after over 3 weeks of no communication. This is something I didn't expect would happen but hoped would happen. Now I just don't know what to do.Most articles I've read explain how exe's will contact with something like "Hey just want to know how things are going?" But in my case it was "I know we said we wouldnt talk to each other, but some things have been bugging me so much and ive been wondering if you've been thinking about me as much as ive been thinking about you"What do I do? She is obviously hurting and bothered by this breakup. It's been a day and I haven't responded yet. I'm giving myself more time to think. Some people have told me to respond, others have told me to not say anything at all but I feel that I should respond back to her but just let her know I need more time if she has any interest of reconciliation which might be the case but who knows. I can't find any online advice for this kind of situation since she's contacting me bringing up the break up first hand. I need help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): Thanks, I did end up responding last night. I wrote her saying "I'm sorry to hear that things have been bugging you. I do think about you but I don't let it absorb my mind since I don't know yet what plans are in store for me and I want to leave my life open."
This way I show her that I have been thinking about her but not giving her the impression that I'm being needy in anyway or giving her reassurance that I'll just take her back anytime so that she can date any other guy and have me as a backup.
I haven't heard back from her yet. I'm hoping my response won't backfire on me but it seems like it was the appropriate thing to say.
I just miss her so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): she obviously still has feelings for you then and dosnt like how things ended, you need to think now do you still feel the same for her? or do you want to be okay with her? or do you not want to speak to her whatsoever.
If you just want to be cool with her theres no harm in talking to her, just aslong as you dont give her the wrong imression,
but my advice is dont leave her hangin, you not responding will be a big blow on her confidence, it takes balls to go to your ex saying that haha,
hope all goes well xxxx
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