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writes:well it has been a year in a few days that i have not been with my ex-fiance, i was starting to get use of my life without her but all of a sudden i hear that she has been asking about me again. Also just yesterday my sister calls me and tells me that she was talking to her, saying that she still loves me and that i am a great guy and she thinks she made the wrong choice and she always thinks about me and wants to contact me again. I personally was shocked and taken back i didn't even know what to say to my sister, but now this news has left me confused, i obviously still have feelings for her and the relationship ending was my fault there were many issues and trust issues more importantly. I always also think about her and blame myself for it not working and i always told God if its meant to be it will be, but now i am so confused i don't want to be let down and her never contact me and be let down. I also do not know how i am going to feel if she contacts me and that is driving me crazy now, its all i can think about what should i do? i hope to please get your advice it would really mean a great big help thanks dear friends....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2011): From what you describe, you are holding onto a lot of guilt over this. I think it would be best if you made an attempt to contact her to discuss. Don't throw your heart out there, but see if there is something to pursue.
Before you jump back into anything, you need to take the time to clearly and completely examine your prior relationship with her. Write down what went wrong and see if there was something that could have been done at the time, or that could be done now, to fix the situation.
Good Luck, and take small steps.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (25 May 2011):
 Depending on how badly your relationship ended, you should definitely consider meeting up again, just to catch up, see how things go. From what I've just read, there's a part of you that still carries a lot of hope for that relationship, you're just afraid of it failing and that's completely understandable so now, you have to think about just how much of a chance you think that relationship has of working this time. She clearly still feels strongly about you and you about her, you know what the problem was. If you could fix those problems, do you really think there is a risk of you being let down?
I hope that helps.
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