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writes:My partner of 4 years just ended things with me, I'm absolutely heartbroken. I thought wee were okay. Yeah wee had problems but always worked through them, he was good with my daughter too. It's not just that he ended it he ended it in the most brutal way by typing to me on FB messenger and attacking me, I didn't respond other than why are you saying all this it is not true. So this morning I sent him a message asking what it is all about and he started insulting me and calling me all the names under the sun. Then went on to tell me wants nothing to do with me. I feel like I have been hit with truck. As I don't know where this has came from and other than shout and insult me he won't speak to me?I thought after 4 years of being together he would have at the very least sat down and spoken to me to end it it if that is what he really wanted. I don't know why he had to make me feel like the worst person in earth to do it.Please help me navigate a way through this as I have spent the whole day in tears. Just don't know where to begin. I need to be strong for my wee girl.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (29 April 2024):
 As you've chosen to only tell half a story here, then we need to speculate more than usual on what is going on. You don't say what he is accusing you of, what names he is calling you. I have to assume cheating is involved. If you are, indeed, 100% innocent of this allegation, then either he has met someone else and wants and end to the relationship so this is an easy way out - to accuse you of what he is actually doing - or someone has filled his head with lies about you. Either way, you are better off away from him. You dodged a bullet. You will get over wasting 4 years on him. Stay strong for your daughter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2024): I'm not surprised you're upset at this bolt out of the blue after four years together. I think it's very cowardly and disrespectful of him to end the relationship through a facebook message.
I agree with Honeypie that it sounds like someone else is involved in this, either speaking I'll of you or he's been cheating or just met someone else. Unless he's the type who lets resentment build up for years and then it all comes out at once.
Either way, I think you need to accept what he says and gets much support as you can from family and friends and have nothing more to do with him.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 April 2024):
 Now I might be wrong here, but my guess is that he attacked you verbally to get you off balance, so you won't realize that He did something messed up, (like, cheating).
Sometimes the best defense is an offence.
That is my guess, HE either cheated or someone you both know talked some serious smack about you.
If he cannot talk to your civilly, then he needs to be CUT off from contacting you.
If you didn't DO any if the things he is accusing, you off he needs to get his shit together and stop talking to you.
If you have NO idea what prompted this, then you need to focus on How you move on with life without him, how to shield your daughter and do your best for the two of you.
"Then went on to tell me wants nothing to do with me."
So pack up ANY stuff of his that you have, let him know he can pick it up outside your door (or at some friend's place) after that you BLOCK him, you delete him FROM everything.
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