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writes:My ex dumped me and walked out of my life without any reasons two months. Recently he found out that I have a new boyfriend and contacted me. He told me he still loves me,but he can't stand to see me with someone else. He then unfriended me on Facebook.I broke down and cried like hell when he told me he still loves me and will always do. He's the one that dumped me and Ive been wondering what I did wrong that I deserved this. Do men always act like this or they are just jealous?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (29 June 2013):
Hi there. He could definitely be jealous.
And sometimes, you don't know what you have until you lose it.
This could be it.
Although, he came back to you or got in contact with you, ONLY after hearing you had met someone else.
And so it kind of sparked his interest for you again.
He may not want you, but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either.
People often feel this way.
Like a kind of insecurity for him, maybe.
And it could be something else entirely.
For instance, if he thought the relationship was getting too serious, it might have scared him off a bit, and so he ended it.
I am assuming that when he left or ended it with you earlier, that there was no argument about something, at that time.
Because you said "without any reason."
So maybe that was it.
He could have thought that things were moving along a little too quickly, and wasn't sure of what to do.
And he might not have been ready to think about marriage, and all that type of thing.
He could simply be feeling confused about his feelings at the moment.
Don't worry too much about him unfriending you on Facebook, as that was just a knee jerk reaction of his, once he discovered you were seeing someone new.
That's probably all that was, for sure.
And I would say, that once he found out you were seeing somebody else, that he realized just how much he does love you.
And so this was probably why he got back in touch with you again.
And he no doubt realized, that he could lose you FOREVER!
And this may have made him take notice, and then take action.
So now, I guess only time will tell, as to what happens from now on.
And of course, how much you love him, and what you feel for the other guy you have been dating since him.
Because now, there is a love triangle, isn't there?
And so depending on how your ex treats you from now on, and there is this other guy in your life now, you are going to have to make a decision at some time soon.
Don't stop dating this new man, if you genuinely like him.
He deserves some respect also.
And just decide who you like the most.
Keeping in mind, that should you go back with your ex, he might do the very same thing again.
And so you DO need to keep that in mind.
Your ex might genuinely want you back.
And then again, he might only decide he wants you, when he can't have you.
I mean, it's hard to say really.
And only time will tell, what is truly meant to be.
So you will need to think very very carefully about this, before finally making a decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2013): he's jealous. i had this happen to me too, dumped a new guy for my ex who said he still loved me but he cheated on me 6 months later! i missed an opportunity with a great guy for nothing. be strong, try not to make the same mistake as me. if you're happy with your new guy, take it slow. if you have any doubts about your new guy, or your feelings for your ex, maybe take some time to be single&to think it all over?
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