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writes:dear users , this is actually a story can be made like a movie !!! ...i won't say much details but i will tell you the outlines and i want you to help me choosing the right way , 4 years ago i was committed to someone " a guy" we lived a great love a story , " a real grate one " we were crazy bout each others , and then after about a year and a half , i started to find him cheating on me " online" with girls " in a far away countries" and if course we kept fighting with each others and it ends every time by me and him going back to each others ,,, then i did the same " i don't have a clue why " i cheated on him online " not considered as a real cheating" then he found out and he started to be someone else .. he changed totally even he thought that i cheated him physically :S and he doubted every word i say ! ... he pushed on me very hard and he had a changing mood actually sometimes he shows love and sometimes he doesn't show it and ignore me ... till last october he cut off his contact with me " stopped calling me " so i kept calling him and he kept not answering me ! and so on , then finally he sent me a msg ... " i will call you after exams " i waited alot for about a month , then he cut off againand i faced him that i was wrong when i cheated on him but i am not going to hurt him again and if he wants me away from him i will do it in silence actually he was totally coward ,, he told me look i am supposed to see someone soon " my dad will introduce us to each others " and i may engage her sooner or later , plus .. " i am going to travel to america " i was shocked , very shocked and i told him " ok good luck " i was very upset that i cried to my best friend " a girl " i told her that i am so in pain and that my bf said " he is going to travel " and she said " travel !!! where ? and when he said so ?!:S" i was surprised by what came to my mind suddenly after few days i had her msn password " hacking it " and what a surprise !!! i saw his mails to her " signed with love you babe and that kinds of shit !!" .. i was so shocked and surprised and i signed in from her mail and talked with my boyfriend to make sure he is doing this " as i couldn't believe my eyes " .. then you expect what he said .. he said " if she was the last girl on the earth i won't marry her " !! ... that was like a pain in the ass for me !:Sand i acted like a stupid after that .. i told him that we should be friends .. and i thought that i am getting him back this way .. in this period of time there was a guy he knew what happening in my life and he was getting closer he loved me that he just wanted to see me happy with no giving from me ... and i was so blind that i didn't feel his love .. my boyfriend " my ex now " was using me in the worst way ... he said that he wants me and in the same time he wants her .. :S .. he had 100 percent control on me ! .. days passed and i became closer and closer to the guy who loved me...till i decided to be in a relation with him that he loves me so much and i started to feel sweet feelings to him , and in this same time ,, i was so in pain because of my ex " i couldn't forget what he did to me " ... step by step i started to concentrate with the other guy then i fall in a real love with him ,,, and for sure we went out with each others many times and we took photos when my ex saw this photos on the fb ,,, he got mad and he said " how you did so ?!?!?!!" and why his arms are around ur waste ,, and those kinda words ... i said nothing cause i didn't want to hurt him ,,, now my ex with my ex best friend is in pain .. in a very hard pain he calls me and says that he can't go on this way ... and that he should have slowed down before getting in such a relation with my ex friend ,,, and now i can't say anything to him , and i am in a relation with someone loves me soo much and i know that if i get back to my ex he will let me for another girl .... what do you think i should do ?????! should i cut off contact with my ex ? but i don't want to hurt him :(
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (25 July 2011):
 Leave this guy alone. He's trying to control you while in another relationship. He can't be hypocritical and move on to someone else and then get mad when you do also. If he feels that he can move on, then you should too. Don't let this guy control you. Don't have anything to do with him. He had his chance and he ruined it. Stay with this new guy. It seems like he really cares about you. Don't feel like you're hurting your ex because he's getting what he deserves-- a broken heart and loss of a good girlfriend. Move on and keep him out of your life.
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