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*lovemyoreo2010
writes:i dated this guy for a little under a year, we were talking about getting married and having kids. but at the end of our relationship (i broke up with him) he cheated on me with my cousin. i went back to him and we were together for a few weeks, then i broke up with him again and left with another guy, i broke up with him also.now I'm with another guy we are going to get married and we already have a baby together. but i cant stop hating the first guy that cheated on me i don't know why this is still bothering me so much after this long. because of him i fear that my current bf will cheat. i dont know how to stop feeling like this i hoped that in time it would go away but its been over 2 yrs and i still feel this way, i still talk to the first guy sometimes, hes married now. and NOTHING will ever happen between us again, even if we were both single again! but i cant stop thinking about him cheating on me i need to get over this i know but i cant its so hard, i loved him so much! and now that im getting married i fear that this one will do the same thing.
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reader, ashermy +, writes (13 April 2010):
It could be as simple as stop talking to him. Every time you talk to him you stir up memories of what happened between you two, if you just cut him out of your life and focus on the people that care about you, you will be better off. But just so you know, even if you "get over it", it will probably always be in the far back corner of your mind. To put it in perspective, he hurt you, and it affected the way you trust men. But try and let it go, let your current boyfriend shape the way you perceive men and hopefully it will be lovely. Don't let your past boyfriend effect your current relationship because it will hurt it.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (13 April 2010):
 The more you live your life and the happier you allow yourself to be happy in your current relationship, the less you will think about your ex and his cheating. Be happy for yourself. Be happy that you have a baby with the man you love. Focus on your current joy, not your past hurt.
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