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writes:My Boyfriend of 5 years just up and decided he wanted to be with someone else and live with them without telling me until months into him cheating on me. The other day i tried to call him just to get some closure and he had changed his number.. I have not tried getting a hold of him since then I know that if I just stay silent he might try and contact me and I can get the closure I need but; now it just doesn't seem like he has an interest in doing so.. It's driving me crazy but; I just want to know if he may consider trying to patch things up with me in the future or sooner? I love him more than words can explain and this is the first time he has ever made a mistake. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 November 2015):
 I have to agree with SVC
You have closure. The dude is over you two. He is a cheating bugger who thought him getting laid was more important than his partner's (you) feelings. He didn't just move out, he moved on.
LET him go. WANT more for yourself.
As far as total closure, it's a unicorn. No one gets full closure after a relationship breaks down. The closure you CAN get is whatever closure YOU give yourself. In your case? Not a hard one, because WHO want to be with a cheater?
And while you might see his transgressions as a "mistake" I don't think he does. After all he moved in with the other guy, right? So obviously... He changed his number.... that is where he wants to be.
I'd say take your time to get over the break up. 5 years is a good while to have been together. And when you are absolutely over him, find someone who CAN be faithful, who WANTS a monogamous relationship (if that is what you want)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 November 2015):
 You have closure, you just don't want to accept it.
He's changed his number and is not in contact with you... trust me he has no interest in patching things up ever.
But the bigger concern is that you would want to patch things up with a man that cheated on you and lied to you and that you will never trust...
you need to look at that more than seeking a closure that already clearly exists.
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