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anonymous
writes:My ex-boyfriend gave me herpes. But it is type HSV-1, which is the 'cold sore' type, as opposed to HSV-2, which is 'genital herpes' type. However, I do have HSV-1 on my genitals. I've only had one or two minor outbreaks, and maybe a couple possible outbreaks which weren't bad enough for me to even notice, so the symptoms aren't that bad in me. I've read that only the first outbreak is bad, and as time goes on it is less and less likely that an outbreak will occur. It's not the outbreaks that are bothering me, since they are not bad or frequent at all, but just the fact that I have this now, is killing me. He used to get cold sores, but I only remember him having them once in the early stages of our relationship and I never let him perform oral sex on me when they were there (obviously) but I heard they can transmit through shedding, in which no symptoms are present but the virus is duplicating inside you. I'm guessing this is how I got them, and I never knew at the time that this could even happen. Now I feel dirty and worst of all I fear I will never be able to find someone else. How will I explain this to them? I feel all of this is making me stick around (partially) with my ex (who I am seeing now... but am not 'officially' dating due to trust issues)... I do care about him a lot but I wonder if maybe a large part of why I'm even giving him another chance is because I'm scared to move on and find someone new now that I have this problem. How can I cope?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): Older sisterI was just diagnosed with HSV-1 on my genitals. Not HSV-2. I read the lab results myself and the doctor said it's becoming more common. Both types can now be in either place.I contracted it through oral sex. We used condoms when we had regular sex. He didn't have any sores, and says he is "clean". The doctor also said a lot of men are carriers and "shed"...meaning no visible sores, but they are contagious.I haven't decided what I will do regarding the sexual partner who gave it to me, or a future one. Basically, it's a cold sore, which nearly everyone has on their mouth anyway. People don't stop kissing because of it. Do I have to stop having sex because I know have the possibility of getting cold sores on my vagina?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): If you’re worried that you might be infected with any STD or STI, your first step should be to call the STD Hotline at http://simplestdtesting.com/get-tested.html/ and speak with one of their certified counselors, where your questions can be asked and answered privately. More importantly, avoid sex until you have gotten tested and know for sure.
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